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Oct 23, 2013 greatwideopen commented on Savage Love.
I don't think I realized until reading the last few weeks' columns how manipulative people can be in relationships. This is despite my ex-wife pulling the faux suicide threat on me back in the day during a fight. I was totally flummoxed. On the one hand, I didn't buy it. On the other, it was an emotional landmine, and I didn't have the guts to call her on it either. Oh well, I guess you live and learn.
Jul 3, 2013 greatwideopen commented on Savage Love.
@11 - I had the same feeling about MLIA. They could either be embarking on a long-term sex-positive marriage or subtly freaking out about being married. It's hard to tell from the letter. At the minimum, they should make sure to talk through all the boundaries and where they see all of this experimentation leading (or not leading) before just jumping in.
Aug 13, 2012 greatwideopen commented on SL Letter of the Day: Even Less Kinky Than Plain Vanilla.
@11. Good point about giving away your power, but that doesn't mean the only alternative is DTMFA. @25, haha! Awesome.
Aug 13, 2012 greatwideopen joined My Stranger Face
Aug 13, 2012 greatwideopen commented on SL Letter of the Day: Even Less Kinky Than Plain Vanilla.
Sounds like there are issues on both sides. The writer seems pretty focused on what her boyfriend doesn't like while glossing over what she won't do, so couples therapy seems like a good idea. I'd say maybe try watching some imaginative porn together (if he's that into you, seeing you get turned on by certain scenes will definitely turn him on - if not, seems like a red flag), try rewarding him (with oral or whatever) for doing things you like, and mixing it up in ways he won't find threatening like stripping for him. Spanking and vanilla toys isn't a lot to start with, but it's something, so I wouldn't DTMFA just yet.
 

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