commented on SL Letter of the Day: Like, Say, DTMFA
I think you're writing to the wrong advice columnist here. Dan is not a poly expert, and from what I understand from his advice, he's not even poly-positive. You're experiencing problems that are very common in poly relationships where a couple attempts to date a third -- the third ends up as a second quality human and free babysitting. You should get some input from Mama Java at www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com
. She has a LOT more experience with this sort of stuff AND she is very poly-friendly.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Lost Boy
well aren't we a bunch of Christian-hating bigots in this ring!
The kid (Matt) isn't having narcissistic delusions. He's believing in what he was taught to believe and it's a miserable place to be. See, God tests everyone, not just Matt, so everyone has to fight their own personal battle, at least this is what the scriptures say.
I think it's shameful of Dan and of the lot of you readers to paint him as evil because he has Christian beliefs that are conflicting with what his heart is telling him is right. I think the lot of you should try and have a little compassion for a pair of young kids stuck in a very sad situation.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Chocolate City
Dan, I'm pretty disappointed with this one:
"Women have naturally lower sex drives, Sewell writes. It's a hormonal thing. Testosterone makes humans horny, men have way more than women, so men are hornier..."
Sewell is far from definitive on this point. In fact, there's an abundance of evidence that suggests that she's dead wrong. I can't believe you swallowed it and regurgitated it without doing a source check.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Ex-Boyfriend
jeez. why can't the guy be "straight" and get fucked by guys in the ass? why does he have to have an identity as gay at all? why can't he just get laid however he wants and not have to say anything about it?
my roommate had the best response the day i asked him about his preferences: "dunno. not much difference, really?"
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Living Discomfortably
thanks for specifying "more than a day or two." it's always hard to know what an appropriate amount of time is to adjust or vent before it starts to enter the realm of emotional blackmail etc.