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Jul 16, 2015 mojo4395 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Piss-Poor Judgment of Solomon.
I don't think you have to feel like you absolutely NEED to have a good to have a kid. But you can't be adverse to the idea. You have to at least want to be a parent. If you don't want to have a kid and your partner wants to have a kid that's one of the few complete deal breakers, IMO.
May 20, 2015 mojo4395 commented on Savage Love.
Ok, here are my thoughts on the whole "No trans women" thing. If I were to go out for a coffee date with a trans woman and we hit it off and started dating, and then after a few dates were at a point where sex was on the table, I would be upset to learn that the woman I was with had male genitalia. It's not "just coffee" because that coffee could lead to more dates, etc... before the the "trans conversation" needs to happen.

On the other hand I do understand that life is already very difficult for trans folks out there and I don't want to make any group feel more marginalized than they already do. It's a tough line to tow for everyone and I can understand why someone who wasn't interested in a trans person would want to make that clear without being an offensive prick.
Dec 10, 2014 mojo4395 commented on Savage Love.
I have a simple rule for navigating the gender and sexual preference gauntlet. Refer to people as they wish to be referred to. If someone wants me to refer to them as "he" "she" "they" or "it," that's what I'll do. Even if I don't understand where they're coming from (and as a cis heterosexual white male I'm not the minority in anything) I'll still give them the respect of being referred to as they would prefer.
May 10, 2013 mojo4395 commented on SL Letter of the Day: What Kind of Straight Guys Watch Gay Porn?.
I just assumed that the writer was talking about lesbian porn. There would be a correlation if she was a straight woman watching lesbian porn to a straight man watching gay male porn. Just my thought.
Nov 14, 2012 mojo4395 commented on Savage Love.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: Dan, you changed my opinion on LGBT rights. That's not entirely true, because before I started reading you I was a college kid who didn't really have an opinion on homosexuality, and I frankly didn't care to. Reading your column (and opening up my eyes a little bit) made it obvious to this straight Christian that LGBT rights are the next step in civil rights. You built that, and thank you for doing so.
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Oct 10, 2012 mojo4395 commented on Savage Love.
I have to disagree with you Dan, which I rarely do. "Faking" a pregnancy for any reason is shitty. Period end, DTMF-level shitty.I'm pro-choice but I also can at least understand how a person would have a serious dislike for abortion. I don't think that abortion is ever a "good" thing, and I think that reducing the number of abortions is a legitimate goal. The way to do that is through increased sex education/access to birth control, etc..., but just because those are my beliefs doesn't mean that I'm a fan of abortion. Anyways, you rule but you're off base on this one.