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Tessiee
May 4 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
"I broke up with her the summer after our freshman year in college because things felt too serious. We continued to have sex, but I blocked out all my feelings for her, while she was open about still wanting to be with me. [...]
during the time we dated, she faked orgasms with me. She didn't have one with me until she introduced a vibrator the year I was having emotionless sex with her [...] Since then, we have forgiven each other and tried several times to rekindle our romantic relationship. Unfortunately, while for me there is a sexual attraction, she says she is no longer attracted to me."

So, let me be sure I understand this correctly:
First he dumped her because he didn't want to be in a serious relationship.
Then he had emotionless sex with her, even though he knew she was still in love with him, and he didn't even do that competently enough to make her come.
Now he feels attracted to her once again, and wants to be in a relationship once again, and is terribly upset that she's no longer attracted to him?

Dude, her taste in men might not run to your type, but she's not unattracted to you because you're a metrosexual, she's unattracted to you because you were a selfish user who was shitty in bed. You don't get to tell somebody (especially not somebody who you know is in love with you) that it's no strings when *you* want no strings, and then complain when *they* want no strings.

The only things you've "set the bar" for are being a jackass and a hypocrite.


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Apr 24 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
"We just got back from a trip to see a safe and trustworthy friend in Los Angeles who "paid" me to have sex with my wife."

Strange sentence. I know what LW means, but it reads like the friend paid LW to have sex with his own wife.
Feb 20 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
@50: "but my engagement ring came from a bubble machine in a truck stop"

This reminds me of a cartoon I loved and had on my bulletin board for years:
"The bride may now noogie the groom".
Feb 20 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
@DBB: "What am I supposed to do now?"

Wash out both their mouths with soap and make them go to their room for a time-out?
Feb 20 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
@NARG:
"My problem is that my ideal engagement ring is something that looks nice but is cheap."

"Something that looks nice" leaves a lot of room for interpretation.

If what you mean is that you don't like diamonds because of the whole blood diamond issue, or because you just don't like the way they look, your fiance could get you an engagement ring with an emerald, or a ruby, or a sapphire, or whatever your birthstone is, or whatever your favorite stone is.

If you don't like any precious or semiprecious stone, there are rings without a stone (for example, in platinum) that could easily run about $1000.

Don't limit your search to the jewelry stores in the mall, either. Look in antique stores, which usually have at least some antique jewelry, if that's your style. Go to one or more custom design jewelry stores in your town, or the nearest good-sized city. Look at the rings, and think about what it is about them you do or don't like. Talk to the jeweler about what design elements s/he might be able to incorporate into a ring, e.g., "I like this design, but can you make it in white gold instead of yellow", "with a different stone", "with three stones instead of two", etc. By the time you decide on a unique ring that's exactly what you want, it's a pretty safe guess you'll be up to a $1000 price tag.
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Jan 17 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
Nancy is on the right track. There's no point in sinking a lot of money into toys and props if you're not sure they'll work for both of you. She and Carl (has anybody else noticed that the names are the same as the couple in "Eating Raoul"?) could spice things up without spending too much by, perhaps, choosing a different position and/or location, role-playing, sexy talk, etc. There are probably things that she and Carl already own that could be repurposed -- for example, a scarf/bandanna could be used as a tie-up or blindfold. Coconut oil makes a nice-smelling, good-tasting lube, and can be found at reasonable prices at most food stores (a little dab of it also works fine as a leave-in conditioner). Good luck and have fun!
Nov 14, 2012 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
"Nothing about Patreus? All I can say is thank God he wasn't gay. Then he would have been open to blackmale"

Typo, or best pun ever?
Oct 10, 2012 Tessiee commented on Savage Love.
Long-time reader here; I signed up for the specific purpose of posting this comment:
It's up to LIFE whether or not the choice issue is important enough to break up over, but I think it should be noted that the anti-choice nuts don't want the fetus to have equal rights and status as a person. They want the fetus to have MORE rights than a person.

A person -- a regular, already born, walking around person -- does NOT have the right to use another person's body, or any part of the other person's body, without consent. No one is trying to get laws on the books saying that it's mandatory to donate a kidney, because someone with kidney failure might die if you don't.
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