commented on On Finding Just the Right Word
The nicey-niceness is everywhere in the book reviewing world, especially once you get away from the literary heights and into the genre trenches. Goodreads has been an absolute minefield of the war between snark and smarm for at least a solid two years now -- you remember all the accusations of "bullying reviews"? Yeah, those were the smarms calling out the snarks.
A lot of it overlaps with YA and romance readerships/authorships, where you get heavy pressure from the catchall Be-Niceness of modern American feminine gender roles. And the commandment to Be Nice gets in the way of calling out privilege, misogyny, racism, and bigotry of all stripes.
commented on I, Anonymous
Well, if Anonymous wants the refreshing change of people being mean to her for free, she's come to the right comments section.
commented on Did You Know It's the Season When Giant House Spiders Walk Around Seattle Homes?
@21: "If you're ever unsure of whether a Tegenaria-type spider is or isn't a hobo, you can catch it inside a plastic bag and gently spread it out under a lamp."
SPREAD IT OUT UNDER A LAMP ARGH ARGH ARGH ARGH ARGH ARGH ARGH.
I can admire spiders of every species -- from a distance. A large, comfortable, non-touching distance. It is good to know that the GHS will triumph over its more vicious cousins, because hobos/recluses are my nightmares. (I lived in Eastern Washington for a few years and count myself fortunate to have escaped unscathed.)
Not long after I moved back to Seattle, I got a rather obnoxiously large and itchy double bite that seemed questionable, so I thought in my naivete to Google 'brown recluse bite.' With SafeSearch off. I do not at all recommend that anybody do this, ever -- though admittedly I felt rather better about my itchy bite after that.
commented on SLLOTD: Accidental Sex
I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest that advising the lady to make jokes/sexy suggestions about future 'violations' to this dude is going to backfire pretty epically. Reinforcing this guy's association between one oops-ouch moment of penetration and THE SCARY WORD 'VIOLATION' is just going to make more work for this couple in the long run.
commented on Death of a Regular
This is really top-notch -- thanks for treating this issue like a complex tragedy and not a sensationalistic scare piece.
commented on Street Harassment with a Happy Ending
I applaud this dude for what he did and for writing about it. (Also for the line about the wispy skirt -- that was swell. I know exactly what kind of skirt he's talking about.) Because the thing he did, the very most important thing, was he let that girl know she wasn't alone. And he let the creepy guy know there were other people who saw what he did, and weren't afraid to get involved. And yeah, he could have gotten hurt and I'm glad he didn't, and it would have been easier to be afraid and not speak up, but even one more voice raised in protest and acknowledgement is important. Drop by drop, spoon by spoon is how we get it done.