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Jun 10, 2015 singing cynic commented on Savage Love.
@25, okay, fair enough, but it's not the pain/oppression Olympics here (and if it were, a trans woman would get the gold over we cis women). It doesn't make a trans woman any less a woman.
Feb 10, 2015 singing cynic commented on SL Letter of the Day: She Might Be Playing You.
Dude, Ken, it must be a bummer to have never had sex with a woman who actually enjoyed it.
Jan 17, 2015 singing cynic commented on SL Letter of the Day: Your Kid Could Be Queer (But So Could Anyone's Kid).
@8 Dan has readers all over the country. I've never even BEEN to the West coast and I read Slog frequently, mostly for the SLLOTD.
Dec 27, 2014 singing cynic commented on Savage Love.
Confidence manifests in many positive ways in a guy - a lack of insecurity and jealousy, assertiveness, ease, a genuine interest in others because he's not wrapped up in his own perceived inadequacies, a lack in inhibition in relationships and in bed. These are attractive qualities in any person. Confidence is a great catch-all term.
Dec 27, 2014 singing cynic commented on Savage Love.
I'm 4'11", married to a guy who' 5'4". He had no shortage of women (both taller and shorter than him) before we met, because he's smart, charismatic, funny, and sexy as hell. I've dated guys as tall as 6'1" and height has little to do with attraction or sexual chemistry for me. There are plenty of short ladies out there for you, and plenty of women who aren't necessarily shorter who won't care about your height. Stop fixating on your height and start working on things you CAN change which will make you more attractive to women - like confidence, humor, interesting hobbies, being a great cook or a great dresser... basically, if you build it, they will come, regardless of how short you are. And maybe don't hold out for a 5'0 woman who weighs 95 lbs - some of us short ladies are curvy because, well, everything is compressed a bit.
Dec 4, 2014 singing cynic commented on Savage Love.
"The quality of mercy is not strained / it falleth down like piss onto your face."
Nov 4, 2014 singing cynic commented on Confessions of a Weed-Smoking Dad.
My mom smokes a lot of weed. she always has. i grew up with no idea, and smoked maybe three times in high school, always afraid that i was SO getting busted. In college, I found out that she could smoke me under the table and meant it when she told me to "bring it home so we can try it together" if I was ever offered drugs (I always assumed it was an evil parental plot to get me in trouble). I'm a parent now myself and smoke MAYBE once a month.

My two youngest brothers both grew up completely ware of how much our mom smoked - she stopped trying to hide it in any way. By the time they were young teens they were sharing joints with my mom at the kitchen table. They have a much more fraught relationship with pot, and had a much harder time staying in college and becoming functional adults, while my other brother and I are infrequent smokers with pretty good impulse control, good jobs and stable relationships. I think that you're totally in the right to keep it from your girls, at least for a little while. In our small case study, the two of us who grew up afraid of getting caught smoking made out better than the two of us who could ask my mom for weed.

That said: one of my fondest memories is the first (and only) time that my whole family - my pothead mom, my generally teetotaling-unless-he's-at-a-mountain-biking-fest-dad, my three little brothers and me - smoked together, before my wedding. Maybe someday you'll be there too.
Nov 4, 2014 singing cynic commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Butt Plug Blooms in Pennsylvania, Readers Respond to Jonathan, Jonathan Responds to Readers.
Holy shit. Anyone who thinks that they can control their child's thoughts - particularly their thoughts about sex and pleasure - is asking for some seeerious karmic retribution. This is what the Greeks (also fond of anal pleasure) called "hubris".
Jun 19, 2014 singing cynic commented on In Culture News: Flannery O'Connor Vs. Ayn Rand, a Bunch of New Seattle Plays, and Colin Firth Can't Hack Paddington.
I had Laura as a playwriting teacher in college - she's a huge talent and a great person. Good for her!
Jun 18, 2014 singing cynic commented on Savage Love.
Dan actually has it a bit backwards - "Not all men!" has been a response to ANY feminist complaint about misogyny, assault, and sexism for as long as the feminist internet has been around. It serves to shut down the conversation and turn it back around to the people who REALLY matter - the men. #YesAllWomen was a response to both the Isla Vista shootings and the "not all men" meme. People who responded to #yesallwomen tweets with sincere and unironic #notallmen tweets? Missing the irony gene and probably beyond reach.