Mar 12, 2013 NaomiMN commented on Savage Love Episode 333.
Listening to the divorced father with the angry daughter, I mostly agreed with Dan, but there was one thing that struck me. She's in high school, still, and totally outraged that her father contacted her forensics coach to talk about her grades. Some teenagers get really furious about parents "interfering" with their lives in any way; that is not, in general, a sign that the parent should back off.

I think that his response, when his daughter said "you're my sperm donor, not my father" should have been, "I will always be your father." There are a lot of teenagers who would prefer that their parents disappear; they don't get to make that choice, and neither does his daughter.
Nov 7, 2012 NaomiMN commented on We Couldn't Have Done It Without Them.
I really love your books, and one of the things that has stuck with me is the image of the "serious" wedding rings that you and Terry keep tucked in a drawer.

What I want -- the "thank you" that would be meaningful to me personally -- is a picture of those rings on your hands, when we hit the point that you feel like you can wear them.
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Oct 12, 2012 NaomiMN commented on Phone Banking with My Coworkers Last Night for Gay Marriage.
I'm a Savage Love listener who lives in Minnesota, and I've been phone-banking here against the amendment on our ballot (which would create a constitutional prohibition against same-sex marriage). I've done a weekly phone banking shift weekly for the last five weeks.

It's not always easy. But some people really are willing to talk to you, and listen to you, and when you realize that you're really opening a window in someone's mind for the first time ever, it's electrifying. When I did my shift on Thursday, my very last call was to a 70-year-old man who was emphatically planning to vote yes (which, just to clarify: "yes" is the WRONG vote in MN even though it's the right vote in other states). And he opposed same-sex marriage and he didn't really think it was OK to be gay (that's usually the cue for us to politely end the conversation). But then he asked how I was voting, and why, and listened as I told him about my friends who were going to be hurt by this, and their kids. And I could hear the change in his voice as he started to actually think about his prejudices and assumptions. I didn't bring him all the way to a no vote, but I moved him from an emphatic yes to undecided and planning to give this some serious thought. Last week, I moved someone all the way from probably yes, to definitely no.

It's hard, but it is SO WORTHWHILE.