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Apr 29
Stacy in Austin commented on Idiot ESPN Writer Pretends to Be the Voice of God While Talking Shit About Jason Collins.
Stacy in Austin commented on Idiot ESPN Writer Pretends to Be the Voice of God While Talking Shit About Jason Collins.
I can probably guess, but the video's blocked from my work; what'd he say?
Feb 27
Stacy in Austin commented on Christ, What an Asshole.
Stacy in Austin commented on Christ, What an Asshole.
Okay, so I can only be loved by the god who killed his son if I become a Christian. I think I'll go with some other god, thanks.
Nov 27, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on Is Polyamory a Sexual Orientation?.
Stacy in Austin commented on Is Polyamory a Sexual Orientation?.
We're primates, and generally like to bone as many different people as we can, as far as basic biology goes. Most of society teaches us not to do this, and gives many reasons (some good, some bad), but I'd guess that a vast majority of the monogamous folks out there have gotten tingly over someone who isn't their partner- barista, porn actor, etc. The urge is there, but the moral code/cultural indoctrination/whatever you want to call it tells them to ignore or repress or sublimate the urge.
Polyamory is one particular variation of how to organize your sexual relationships. Monogamy, serial monogamy, cheating, and swinging (and I suppose contented onanism) are some other ways. You may be temperamentally pre-disposed to be good at any of these- you're not prone to jealousy, you might be good at poly. But I don't think anyone is born "a poly". It's not an orientation in that sense. Neither is religion, but there are definitely examples of different personality types fitting better with one religion or another, and religion is protected under the law. So I don't think it lessens the legitimacy of polyamory by saying it's not an orientation.
Personally, I think polyamory is a type of specialized relationship structure that takes a lot of skill to do right. Arnold Schwarzenegger does monogamy badly, and I've met plenty of people who do poly badly. You may like the idea, and you may have a good personality for it, but if you don't do a lot of work and get your relationship/communications chops up you're going to suck at it. The same is true of monogamy, by the way; monogamy is less complicated but farther from our natural state. Being good at relationships of any sort takes work, but poly is more of a challenge because most of us didn't grow up even realizing it was a possibility, so there's a lot of flailing around when you first start out. I think this is true in the personal sense, and in the cultural sense as a whole- I see the poly community as flailing around while it figures itself out. But I don't think there's any doubt that polyamorous relationships are possible, and work really well for some people. Eventually one hopes it will be as accepted as a legitimate option, and this talk of poly folks getting fired or poly families getting children taken away will seem as idiotic by the general population as it does to us weirdos today.
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Polyamory is one particular variation of how to organize your sexual relationships. Monogamy, serial monogamy, cheating, and swinging (and I suppose contented onanism) are some other ways. You may be temperamentally pre-disposed to be good at any of these- you're not prone to jealousy, you might be good at poly. But I don't think anyone is born "a poly". It's not an orientation in that sense. Neither is religion, but there are definitely examples of different personality types fitting better with one religion or another, and religion is protected under the law. So I don't think it lessens the legitimacy of polyamory by saying it's not an orientation.
Personally, I think polyamory is a type of specialized relationship structure that takes a lot of skill to do right. Arnold Schwarzenegger does monogamy badly, and I've met plenty of people who do poly badly. You may like the idea, and you may have a good personality for it, but if you don't do a lot of work and get your relationship/communications chops up you're going to suck at it. The same is true of monogamy, by the way; monogamy is less complicated but farther from our natural state. Being good at relationships of any sort takes work, but poly is more of a challenge because most of us didn't grow up even realizing it was a possibility, so there's a lot of flailing around when you first start out. I think this is true in the personal sense, and in the cultural sense as a whole- I see the poly community as flailing around while it figures itself out. But I don't think there's any doubt that polyamorous relationships are possible, and work really well for some people. Eventually one hopes it will be as accepted as a legitimate option, and this talk of poly folks getting fired or poly families getting children taken away will seem as idiotic by the general population as it does to us weirdos today.
Sep 4, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on LiveSlogging Day One of the Democratic National Convention.
Stacy in Austin commented on LiveSlogging Day One of the Democratic National Convention.
Event is in standby mode? :(
Aug 26, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on Jesus Cancels First Day of Republican Convention.
Stacy in Austin commented on Jesus Cancels First Day of Republican Convention.
Hey, if you wanna just fuck it all, we have a spare bedroom in Austin. We have a nice TV; it'll be like being there without all the hassle.
Jul 13, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on The Governor of Maine Is Sorry He Compared Obamacare to the Holocaust Because It's Not Quite as Bad as the Holocaust Yet.
Stacy in Austin commented on The Governor of Maine Is Sorry He Compared Obamacare to the Holocaust Because It's Not Quite as Bad as the Holocaust Yet.
I'm from Texas. I forgive you.
Jul 13, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on This Weekend in Film: Military Horrors, Godly Delights, and Todd Haynes in the Flesh.
Stacy in Austin commented on This Weekend in Film: Military Horrors, Godly Delights, and Todd Haynes in the Flesh.
I've seen 'Best of God' a couple of times in Austin. It's hysterical. And Owen is so *nice* about it! Six or seven thumbs up. Talk him into showing you 'Best of Drugs' while he's up there.
Jun 28, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on Here's CNN Getting the Ruling Completely Wrong.
Stacy in Austin commented on Here's CNN Getting the Ruling Completely Wrong.
They were sort of right about the commerce thing, but still- yeah, I checked there when I started seeing conflicting posts in FB and was very sad. Then very confused. Then, yay!
Mar 30, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on Mirror, Mirror: Even With Julia Roberts, You Could Do Worse.
Stacy in Austin commented on Mirror, Mirror: Even With Julia Roberts, You Could Do Worse.
A couple more over here who want to see 'Die Hard: Hans Gruber Gets Rich'...
Mar 6, 2012
Stacy in Austin commented on This Is Your Super Tuesday Super Slog Post.
Stacy in Austin commented on This Is Your Super Tuesday Super Slog Post.
Thanks for keeping up with all this so we don't have to, Paul. It has to be getting old.
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