commented on Gawker Outs One Cheater and the Internet Condemns Gawker—Hackers Expose 37 Million Cheaters and the Internet Condemns Cheaters
I have read all the comments (so far) twice now and I still don't understand libertine's objections. Dan's code says that cheating is okay under certain very limited conditions (spouse has unilaterally cut off sex without reason and for a long period, spouse doesn't want to resume sexual relationship, marriage is otherwise good or necessary). Even then the potential cheater should ask the spouse for permission to have outside sex and should be very discrete so as not to shame spouse or family. All other cases of people (male or female) having extramarital sex without the knowledge or consent of their spouse makes the cheater as CPOS. That is simple enough to understand.
Dan's code also says that people may be outted under certain very limited conditions (the person being outted has public influence and secretly engages in the behavior that they condemn in others). No one else should be outted. That also seems pretty easy to understand and in no way conflicts with Dan's code regarding cheating.
It is worth noting that Dan's code lacks the force of law and is just one man's attempt to influence the society in which he lives. Dan's fame and ability to influence society is a direct result of his attempts to influence society and does not come from some other source - that is, Dan is famous because of his views rather than using his fame to push his views onto others. You are perfectly free to accept or disregard Dan's code as you wish - Dan has no ability to force his code on to you.
Some of the people who are registered at Ashley Madison were only curious or engaging in a fantasy. Others may have intended to cheat but not yet found a partner. There is the possibility that a few of the people registered at Ashley Madison may have done so with the full knowledge and consent of their spouse. If the hackers make good on their threat to expose the registrant's financial information both the cheater and the innocent spouse will be harmed. Therefor the Hacker's demand is equivalent to Gawker's actions.
Is that too hard to understand?
Nov 16, 2014
commented on If You Didn't Vote, Why?
I'm not a Washingtonian, but I did get out to vote. My sister really wanted to, but was called out of state unexpectedly at the last moment - on the day after she could have gotten an absentee ballot. She was very irritated that she couldn't vote, but at least the Democrats won in our state, so she doesn't feel too bad about it.
Nov 11, 2014
commented on Here's What I Think of Interstellar's Spoilers
I hated it. The music was so loud at times that I couldn't understand what the actors were saying, although that could just have been the theater. There was no logic to the movie - the only crop that survives is corn, but Coop drinks beer; dust is everywhere but the kitchen is gleaming. The special effects were nice, but the movie could have been an hour shorter and the ending could have been simply sliced off - it would have been a better film if Coop sacrificed his life to save the planet. Oh, and everyone on earth could fit in that space station? Even if there had been a thousand space stations just like it people would have been left behind.
It was stupid from beginning to end.
Oct 22, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Say Goodbye To My Racist Family?
@sissoucat, I am so sorry to hear what you have to put up with! I think that it would be best if you can get your kids to a neutral third party - even a clergyman if you are religious. (Meet with them alone first so that you understand their take on it first, though - I went to a priest for help once and he basically told me that I was beyond help and going to Hell.) Maybe a teacher that the children respect could help.
I think it is important that you do your best to refute your ex-husband's claims, though. My brother went through a nasty divorce and his ex-wife told their daughter that he never paid child support and she still believes Mom over Dad (he showed her the cancelled checks, but not until she was an adult and had already chosen sides). One thing you should not do is counter-attack. Be the 'nice' parent and your children will see the truth.
Sending you lots of good thoughts!