Oct 31, 2016
commented on Homelessness Is a Growing Problem For People, Not For Cars
@4 That doesn't ring true to me. I build wood furniture and restore antique motorcycles. Up to now, I've been borrowing and renting space in various friends' (wait for it) garages. I'm really interested in a project space, and am looking into to adding a workshop to our house. If we go forward with the project, It will almost certainly be added to our house as a "garage". A garage offers roll-in bike storage, easy loading and unloading of project materials, and adds more value to house resale than a "utility room". It just happens that garages make great project rooms.
I'm not claiming desire for project space is behind the boom, I'm sure that many people are actually storing cars, but at the same time, garages are such ideal do-it-all project spaces, that may account for some of it.
Sep 28, 2016
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Too Good To Be True
The club I've been to with my wife had a waiting list for vetted men, and would allow just enough of them in to balance any single women who showed up. Once inside, the men were allowed to mingle in the "public" areas, but we're not allowed into the "play" areas unless they were escorted by a woman.
Sep 19, 2016
commented on Hate Read This Seattle Times Story About the Struggle of Two Upper Middle Class People in the Suburbs
Thank you @11. It's possible to care about about homeless and poor people, and simultaneously care about people who have more (a lot more) but still struggle some because of the insane way our country deals with childcare and education expenses. The author of this post is really being pretty small-minded and has an unhelpful "us vs them" zero sum kind of attitude.
I grew up poor, but I got great financial aid in the form of grants and generous loans. I'm really grateful. It allowed me to move into a whole different income bracket, and now I make good money. Good enough that I can't expect any help with my two children's education expenses. So we are saving, and let me tell you, paying for childcare and saving for college is a giant expense, even for people who make pretty good money. I don't feel sorry for myself a bit, but it simply isn't true that once you move from making $30K to say $100K, you can just start living like a king. Even keeping a fairly modest life-style, taxes, education, and childcare expenses eat up the lion's share of the that extra cash.
Aug 31, 2016
commented on Here Are 6 Reasons Why Trigger Warnings Aren't Bullshit.
I don't count 6 reasons. Maaaaaybe 1.5. Most of them just seem neither here nor there.
Just to pick one of your reasons: "Rape is underreported, often results in PTSD, and is common."
That's true, and appalling, but what bearing does that have on whether trigger warnings are good/bad/effective/detrimental? I just think your reasons don't have much to say about it one way or the other.
I think the trigger warning advocates are not so much motived by evidence of best-practices, as the desire to acknowledge the pain and trauma of the victims of horrific crimes and traumatic events. It is admirable that these advocates want to do something proactive about it, but I just don't see that trigger warnings actually help anyone. I'd be happy to change my tune on that one if actual evidence came out supporting the efficacy of trigger warnings for mitigating the trauma of victims.
Aug 25, 2016
commented on I, Anonymous
Her sin: minor. His sin: major. Her sin retroactively justified by what she found.