Oct 15
alion commented on "Life May Be Scary, But It's Only Temporary".
The picture of your mom is beautiful and puts all the buzzing noise of news and daily worries in perspective for a bit.. A quiet moment with your mom's smile. My best wishes...
Oct 13
alion commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day.
The letter writer sounds very thoughtful in dealing with their situation, and IMO Dan's answer is right on.
I've been in an open realtionship since the early 90's. Especially in the early days there were a couple of reasons the topic came up. One is that many couples in my social circle were struggling with those inevitable periods of temptations and crushes. They were devoted to their partners, but as happens all the time, people fell in love with others, were attracted to others--and it becomes a philosophical discussion. You talk about these things with the people you are close to. Dan is right in that people focus on open relationships failing, but in my experience the monogamous couples have the same issues, and fail at solving them at least as often. I don't know any of my monogamous friends who haven't strayed a little, at least in their hearts--and I consider them to be a pretty upstanding bunch of people.
So you talk about these struggles with your close friends.
But beyond the close friends? I've sometimes told people I had a lot of contact with because I did not want them to ever possibly see me with my other partner and think I was cheating on my husband.
So these days I less often see a need to just bring it up with new people. But if the topic arises, I feel I need to speak up for the team. I feel I'm pretty trustworthy in most people's eyes, so it breaks their stereotypes a bit. And oddly, by now in my life more people recognize that life isn't black and white. So many very well meaning people I know, have grown up and realized you go forth with life "doing the best they can". And there is less angst about the question. You try to treat people well and you try to live your life the best you can--being true to oneself, causing as little hurt as possible to those around you.
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I've been in an open realtionship since the early 90's. Especially in the early days there were a couple of reasons the topic came up. One is that many couples in my social circle were struggling with those inevitable periods of temptations and crushes. They were devoted to their partners, but as happens all the time, people fell in love with others, were attracted to others--and it becomes a philosophical discussion. You talk about these things with the people you are close to. Dan is right in that people focus on open relationships failing, but in my experience the monogamous couples have the same issues, and fail at solving them at least as often. I don't know any of my monogamous friends who haven't strayed a little, at least in their hearts--and I consider them to be a pretty upstanding bunch of people.
So you talk about these struggles with your close friends.
But beyond the close friends? I've sometimes told people I had a lot of contact with because I did not want them to ever possibly see me with my other partner and think I was cheating on my husband.
So these days I less often see a need to just bring it up with new people. But if the topic arises, I feel I need to speak up for the team. I feel I'm pretty trustworthy in most people's eyes, so it breaks their stereotypes a bit. And oddly, by now in my life more people recognize that life isn't black and white. So many very well meaning people I know, have grown up and realized you go forth with life "doing the best they can". And there is less angst about the question. You try to treat people well and you try to live your life the best you can--being true to oneself, causing as little hurt as possible to those around you.
Oct 4
alion commented on Just When I Start Feeling Sorry For Myself Again.
Huge sympathy. What a lousy way to spend this beautiful weekend.
Sep 2
alion commented on Was It Something I Said?.
Fantastic showing. And I wish you or others at the Stranger would post notice on the slog when you are going to be on TV!! And then post the video!! You give us hope while we trudge through these battles-- You help keep the fire lit. So don't be so quiet about it here, please!
(and how did the HBO taping go?)
(and how did the HBO taping go?)
Sep 1
alion commented on Talking Them Into Submission.
good to hear. And on top of that good performance, Dan was awesome giving it to the right and speaking up with fireworks about health care on Oberman's Countdown tonight.
Aug 24
alion commented on Let A Thousand Group Healths Bloom?.
Group Health is their model for co-ops. But Group Health, up and running for decades still does not offer prices lower than any other insurance plan. Co-ops (which will take time to establish) will not have the power to drive down prices. So how, pray tell, wlll a co-op plan accomplish the goal of more affordability.
Aug 20
alion commented on What The Hell Am I Doing In LA?.
Very happy for you, Dan. I hope very much that we don't lose you in Seattle--I hope you can somehow manage to be everywhere at once. But however it works out best for you and your family--you'll have our support. Good luck next week!!
Aug 19
alion commented on Garfunkel and Oates: This Friday and Saturday at Re-bar!.
Throwing my wondering thoughts out there--though I don't expect an answer: Are you in LA taping/creating/making a television show?
Aug 7
alion commented on Required Reading.
Beautiful. Powerful Thank you!
And Kim @11, I also know two people who voted for prop 8 who say if they get an opportunity to vote again they will vote differently this time. They felt an unexpected shame almost immediately when they saw it was winning. People are changing. Stories like this will continue to make people re-think. Thanks, Dan.
And Kim @11, I also know two people who voted for prop 8 who say if they get an opportunity to vote again they will vote differently this time. They felt an unexpected shame almost immediately when they saw it was winning. People are changing. Stories like this will continue to make people re-think. Thanks, Dan.
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I remember two or so years ago he wrote an editorial (Times? PI?) about the need for some health care reform--and that was long before it was a national topic.
Go Nick. Hearts from me!!