Nov 20
Gloria commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@10: And what was she supposed to do in those eight months after his injury? "Ok, now that you have basically no life outside this recliner, it's time to go on a diet." "Ok, now that you can't even walk, it's time to start a jazzercise routine." "Oh hey, maybe we can get your stomach stapled with all that health insurance we've got."
I can see your point that she let him stay the way he was up until his injury. They both left it way too late, but by the time his knee was shot, I'm saying there was basically zero opportunity for her to do anything.
I can see your point that she let him stay the way he was up until his injury. They both left it way too late, but by the time his knee was shot, I'm saying there was basically zero opportunity for her to do anything.
Nov 20
Gloria commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@10: The dude weighed 500 pounds when they met. He clearly had health and diet problems, and whatever let him physiologically get to 500 pounds in the first place almost certainly contributed to that kind of rapid weight gain. The fact he was sitting in a recliner 24/7 was also a big part of the problem.
His wife brought him food because he had a bum knee and couldn't cook for himself. Was she frying up donuts and shoving them in his face?
@11: "[B]ut enablers do need to be told that what they are doing is helping their loved one kill themselves, and help them instead to turn things around."
My sticking point here is that Dan condemned the woman because she let him gain weight on the recliner -- which was clearly influenced by the fact he was completely sedentary. It says right in the article he was already 500 pounds when they met, so she sure didn't help him gain any more after they became a couple.
I can't deny she did enable him, because she's the one who married him and, out of misguided compassion, just accepted what was obviously a life-threatening medical condition, and didn't ever seem to encourage him to lose weight in the four years she had known him. *That* was her enabling -- her passivity.
But Dan didn't call *that* out. He called her out for bringing food to an injured man. What?
"Turn things around." They had let things get to an awful point, had no money for health care, and the husband was impaired enough to have to live on a *recliner.* How do you turn things around?
Yes, of course, they had serious, serious personal responsibility for this, but sometimes you can't say, "Well, just turn it around." Sometimes a situation does just get hopeless. They missed their opportunities, and now it's just a little sad.
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His wife brought him food because he had a bum knee and couldn't cook for himself. Was she frying up donuts and shoving them in his face?
@11: "[B]ut enablers do need to be told that what they are doing is helping their loved one kill themselves, and help them instead to turn things around."
My sticking point here is that Dan condemned the woman because she let him gain weight on the recliner -- which was clearly influenced by the fact he was completely sedentary. It says right in the article he was already 500 pounds when they met, so she sure didn't help him gain any more after they became a couple.
I can't deny she did enable him, because she's the one who married him and, out of misguided compassion, just accepted what was obviously a life-threatening medical condition, and didn't ever seem to encourage him to lose weight in the four years she had known him. *That* was her enabling -- her passivity.
But Dan didn't call *that* out. He called her out for bringing food to an injured man. What?
"Turn things around." They had let things get to an awful point, had no money for health care, and the husband was impaired enough to have to live on a *recliner.* How do you turn things around?
Yes, of course, they had serious, serious personal responsibility for this, but sometimes you can't say, "Well, just turn it around." Sometimes a situation does just get hopeless. They missed their opportunities, and now it's just a little sad.
Nov 20
Gloria commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
"Webb, 33, didn't ask for help for all those months, because he was ashamed and didn't have health insurance, said his wife, Ada."
That is just so sad.
Dan, you condemn his wife for letting him gain all that weight, but what would you do in her situation? She couldn't force him to exercise on a bad knee, and was probably devastated by how restricted his life had become -- reduced to living his life on a recliner. She probably couldn't bring herself to do anything except try to make him comfortable as possible. The article says that the paramedics were called back this week because he was in so much pain, pain that probably didn't just spring up a few days ago.
You can only attribute so much blame to her considering the man was already 500 pounds when they met four years ago. He didn't need "enabling."
That is just so sad.
Dan, you condemn his wife for letting him gain all that weight, but what would you do in her situation? She couldn't force him to exercise on a bad knee, and was probably devastated by how restricted his life had become -- reduced to living his life on a recliner. She probably couldn't bring herself to do anything except try to make him comfortable as possible. The article says that the paramedics were called back this week because he was in so much pain, pain that probably didn't just spring up a few days ago.
You can only attribute so much blame to her considering the man was already 500 pounds when they met four years ago. He didn't need "enabling."
Nov 20
Gloria commented on All The Best Men Are Taken.
@34: Interesting idea. I agree with you too, though it doesn't apply to this study, since none of the women interacted with "Mr. Right" but only saw a photo of him.
@9: Spot on. It's idiot logic. Of course, being married doesn't mean you're a good mate either -- it might mean you were both terrified of being alone, somebody got knocked up, etc. People get married for all kinds of reasons, and not always the right ones. People marry bitches and assholes all the time too, because they're morons.
@9: Spot on. It's idiot logic. Of course, being married doesn't mean you're a good mate either -- it might mean you were both terrified of being alone, somebody got knocked up, etc. People get married for all kinds of reasons, and not always the right ones. People marry bitches and assholes all the time too, because they're morons.
Nov 19
Gloria commented on Chemicals in Plastics Turn Boys Into Sissies.
@12: "There is no middle ground - boy toys are geared towards war and violence, girl's are all about looking pinkly whorish and shopping.
"If not viewing girls as objects and finding non violent solutions to the world’s problems means boys are becoming sissified I’m okay with that. I don’t see it happening though."
That said, if boys are becoming *too* sissfied, maybe the true fear here is that eventually they wouldn't just be sensitive and non-violent, but we'll start treating them like girls and making *them* up as pinkly whores for shopping too. Shit.
"If not viewing girls as objects and finding non violent solutions to the world’s problems means boys are becoming sissified I’m okay with that. I don’t see it happening though."
That said, if boys are becoming *too* sissfied, maybe the true fear here is that eventually they wouldn't just be sensitive and non-violent, but we'll start treating them like girls and making *them* up as pinkly whores for shopping too. Shit.
Nov 19
Gloria commented on Attention, Nerds: Twilight-Themed Cocktails Now Available.
The scary part is how many Twilight fans aren't tweens or teens. They're your mom, your boss, your doctor, your lawyer ... watch out!
Nov 19
Gloria commented on Chemicals in Plastics Turn Boys Into Sissies.
@2: Maybe it's because the insensitive, conflicted, pretty boys don't sit around and complain about how girls just aren't smart and deep enough to realize how sensitive and date-able they really are.
Chin up, though. I'm sure eventually a girl will be lucky enough to realize how idiotic and superficial she's been, and be grateful that you've been so patient with shallow morons like her. Then true love will come calling.
Chin up, though. I'm sure eventually a girl will be lucky enough to realize how idiotic and superficial she's been, and be grateful that you've been so patient with shallow morons like her. Then true love will come calling.
Nov 19
Gloria commented on A Chat With Erik "The Red" Denmark on the Eve of His Attempt to Win the World Record for Competitive Bacon-Eating.
So he's a bacon vampire? Fuck. This guy is a national hero.
Nov 19
Gloria commented on Savage Love.
@91: I still find that sentiment ironic. When you're the woman a man is cheating with on his wife, she's generally a "piece of ass."
I mean, sure, there could be an emotional connection there, and it'd be a full-blown affair, but we've heard so many cases of women who hope that a husband would leave his wife for her after fucking around for a while -- and he doesn't, because he'd be risking kids, his bank account, whatever, etc., and he was just looking for some fun.
I mean, sure, there could be an emotional connection there, and it'd be a full-blown affair, but we've heard so many cases of women who hope that a husband would leave his wife for her after fucking around for a while -- and he doesn't, because he'd be risking kids, his bank account, whatever, etc., and he was just looking for some fun.
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And it's *always* bad timing to dump someone. Might as well get it over with.