Nov 22
onion commented on
Savage Love.
Re NFW: I think Dan overlooked a different possibility that is a little less uh, fantastically mean.
Sometimes a woman finds a man, falls for him, and wants him for her own. Sometimes, this man is already taken. But, because she believes that he would be better off with her, and she would be better off with him, she pursues him anyway. If she is the monogamous type, she does it in hopes that he will leave the current woman and go with her. And enter into, for the time being, a monogamous relationship.
I've done this. It worked. We are still together after four years.
But if he had said "well I'll leave my current woman for you, but only if I can have other partners too" I might have thought twice about it.
Serial monogamy and...what do we call it? Complete promiscuity? Total non-exclusivity? These are different things. While serial monogamy may not be monogamy in the truest sense, it at least is an agreement not to be screwing multiple partners simultaneously.
Nov 21
onion commented on
SL Letter of the Day: Hot & Drunk.
Not that I think violence is ok or anything, but I dated a drunk for a few months once and it ended with me smacking him, in public. Because he had been quite publicly drunk for over 48 hours at a weekend activity we were attending together...and he topped it off by screaming at me (in public) for some reason I can't remember. I was absolutely mortified at my own behavior but that about sums up what it is like to date a drunk. Everyone involved goes crazy.
Relatively straightforward evenings like "stay home and play games and then screw and go to bed" end up with him having somehow consumed NINE beers just while playing a few games of backgammon and then him passing out between my legs while attempting cunnilingus.
Nov 21
onion commented on
Meanwhile in Vancouver.
yeah a lot of these nylon/ripstop "reusable" bags don't look like they will hold up as well as canvas, but one cool thing about them is that they pack down real small, often in their own built-in pouch.
so people like 28 could easily keep a couple or a few in their BACKPACK (or whatever it is that you carry as you BUS and not drive, kudos to you).
that's what i've started doing. I also am often coming from work/school/town and not home, and am on the bus or am walking. I have some of these new-fangled nylon bags that pack down into very small compact sacs and they hardly take up any room in my backpack. shoot sometimes i just carry them around in my jacket pockets.
Nov 17
onion commented on
Lunchtime Quickie: Mean Old China.
the idea of this makes me sick. it is evil.
i didn't watch the video, but i can see from the comments and Kello O's blurb that this is about torture.
it is disturbing that some just find this entertaining.
Nov 17
onion commented on
Feeling Sorry for Carrie Prejean.
"Sex tape tips from Carrie Prejean
Hi, I made a sex tape! Eight, actually! And you can too! Praise the lord!"
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cg…
Excerpt:
"You want your scene to look good for your massively sexually frustrated boyfriend, right? Well, candles just get in the way of the action, and unless you're using an infrared camera, there's simply no way candles -- even, like, a million little votives from Wal-Mart that smell like vanilla pudding and hurt in a really yummy way when you drip them on your thigh and moan -- will illuminate the important stuff, like your sequined heels, a John Mayer poster, or the giant stuffed Pooh bear propping up the wine coolers on the bedside table..."
Nov 12
onion commented on
What She Said: Digby on Viagra.
Yeah i agree with 5. Straight women definitely do benefit. So what's gonna happen when we are all 70 and still horny and our mens can't get it up any more? We're gonna send em straight to doc to get Viagra, that's what.
I guess gay men are potential beneficiaries too (suck on that, Republicans - by keeping Viagra in, you are funding old gay sex). I can definitely see how a lesbian might not want to foot the bill though.
That said, I want abortion to be funded. But if abortion aint funded in the bill, then get Viagra the hell out of there.
Nov 10
onion commented on
Scenes From the City.
I absolutely totally 100% agree with observation #1.
Dog owners - what's wrong with having your dog sit on the floor?
Sometimes a woman finds a man, falls for him, and wants him for her own. Sometimes, this man is already taken. But, because she believes that he would be better off with her, and she would be better off with him, she pursues him anyway. If she is the monogamous type, she does it in hopes that he will leave the current woman and go with her. And enter into, for the time being, a monogamous relationship.
I've done this. It worked. We are still together after four years.
But if he had said "well I'll leave my current woman for you, but only if I can have other partners too" I might have thought twice about it.
Serial monogamy and...what do we call it? Complete promiscuity? Total non-exclusivity? These are different things. While serial monogamy may not be monogamy in the truest sense, it at least is an agreement not to be screwing multiple partners simultaneously.