Nov 20
Dave M commented on Lunchtime Quickie: A Stuffed Animal Dog Show!.
Boring.. boring... boring.... HAhahaHhahahaha.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Becoming a Man.
@32: "And to "educate", as you put it, is a euphemism for controlling a discourse of authority.
Consequently, an ignorant teacher makes for ignorant students."
That some seriously ridiculous babble right there.
Consequently, an ignorant teacher makes for ignorant students."
That some seriously ridiculous babble right there.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@37: It really is 99% calories in vs. calories out. Distraction with other stuff, and building up a big mental block that weight loss is some mysterious magical unicorn to be chased is a big part of why many people don't try or fail when they do try.
For 99% of people if they would just eat less every day than they did the day before, and get up off their butts more than they did the day before, they will lose weight. The problem it's a long and winding road, and weight loss isn't a constant downward line, it's bumpy and goes up and down along the way. But if you stick to the simple rules of eating less and moving more, you will lose weight over time.
You have every right to chose not to do that, and I'm not trying to say you're a bad person if you don't. But don't make the lame old excuse that "it's not that easy", because while it's not the easiest thing in the world, it is really that simple.
For 99% of people if they would just eat less every day than they did the day before, and get up off their butts more than they did the day before, they will lose weight. The problem it's a long and winding road, and weight loss isn't a constant downward line, it's bumpy and goes up and down along the way. But if you stick to the simple rules of eating less and moving more, you will lose weight over time.
You have every right to chose not to do that, and I'm not trying to say you're a bad person if you don't. But don't make the lame old excuse that "it's not that easy", because while it's not the easiest thing in the world, it is really that simple.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Becoming a Man.
@21: Gender and sex are synonyms. I think trying to split hairs and make them different terms is pretty silly. There seems to be no purpose to splitting them up into separate terms (where "sex" is only the physical trappings of gender) other than allowing silly statements like "gender is JUST between your ears" to be true, given your new definition of the terms.
Trying to redefine terms in this way also makes it harder to educate people about things. If you're using words that they already know to mean one thing in a totally different way, that is a lot more prone to confusion than using other terms that express your meaning more clearly.
What's more clear to the average person:
"Chaz has identified as male his whole life."
or
"Chaz has gendered as male his whole life."
The first one makes it clear your meaning the second will result in people who have not heard your new definitions going "What?" or misinterpreting you, most of the time.
Likewise, IF this is what Chaz meant by "gender" in his statement, and you reword it as "sexual identity is between your ears", then it becomes a statement that is much clearer, and hard to take issue with.
Basically my original point was let's be clear in our meanings and be honest. I stand by that point.
And I was and am definitely not being mean spirited. Neither am I ignorant.
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Trying to redefine terms in this way also makes it harder to educate people about things. If you're using words that they already know to mean one thing in a totally different way, that is a lot more prone to confusion than using other terms that express your meaning more clearly.
What's more clear to the average person:
"Chaz has identified as male his whole life."
or
"Chaz has gendered as male his whole life."
The first one makes it clear your meaning the second will result in people who have not heard your new definitions going "What?" or misinterpreting you, most of the time.
Likewise, IF this is what Chaz meant by "gender" in his statement, and you reword it as "sexual identity is between your ears", then it becomes a statement that is much clearer, and hard to take issue with.
Basically my original point was let's be clear in our meanings and be honest. I stand by that point.
And I was and am definitely not being mean spirited. Neither am I ignorant.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on The Man Who Killed His Wife With His Dreaming Hands Is Cleared.
Anyone else not believe this guy's story at all?
I just flat out do not believe you could strangle someone to death without waking up. I do not buy it.
I just flat out do not believe you could strangle someone to death without waking up. I do not buy it.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@23: She helped him go from 500 to 800. He didn't spend 24/7 in the recliner until his final days. She enabled him by bringing him way more food than he had any business eating, he was incapable of leaving the trailer for quite some time there, so yes she had control of his diet. She's not 100% to blame, but she does have some blame in this, and other enablers need to be aware of what they are doing.
@24: If our health care system was worth a shit he would have been able to get psychiatric and medical help a long time ago that would have steered him away from this path a long time ago. In the article it even says that he wanted help but had no insurance and no way to pay for that help, and he was embarrassed because of that.
@24: If our health care system was worth a shit he would have been able to get psychiatric and medical help a long time ago that would have steered him away from this path a long time ago. In the article it even says that he wanted help but had no insurance and no way to pay for that help, and he was embarrassed because of that.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Becoming a Man.
Y'know I'm happy that Chaz is happy. I agree with 9, life is too short.
However, statements like "gender is between your ears" annoy me. It's just patently not true. While I agree completely there is obviously a mental component, and that gender is not binary, your body does play a role in your gender. If it didn't, there'd be no medications or operations involved.
So, yeah, congratulations Chaz, I'm glad you're happy, but let's stick to the truth. It's not JUST between your ears.
However, statements like "gender is between your ears" annoy me. It's just patently not true. While I agree completely there is obviously a mental component, and that gender is not binary, your body does play a role in your gender. If it didn't, there'd be no medications or operations involved.
So, yeah, congratulations Chaz, I'm glad you're happy, but let's stick to the truth. It's not JUST between your ears.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@15: It's not identical but usually the weight gain with the hyper-obese like this is also very fast. He went from 550 to 800 in 8 months. It's like a snowball. If I had kept going the path I was on I would have probably topped 400 by New Year's. Yes turning it around at 300 is probably easier, but that doesn't mean turning around at 550 is impossible. And at one point he was at 300, and could have made the choice then.
There is a level of personal responsibility here, but that doesn't mean we can't do more to help as a society.
If you crash your car because you were texting your BFF, that doesn't mean I won't stop and check to make sure you're ok and dial 9-1-1, even though your accident was due to your own stupidity.
There is a level of personal responsibility here, but that doesn't mean we can't do more to help as a society.
If you crash your car because you were texting your BFF, that doesn't mean I won't stop and check to make sure you're ok and dial 9-1-1, even though your accident was due to your own stupidity.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@13: K so when you have a stroke and can no longer do stuff for yourself because of your lack of motor-control, I'll be sure to leave you under an overpass somewhere.
Nov 20
Dave M commented on Life and Death in a Recliner in South Carolina.
@8: He did need enabling, all hyper-obese people have enablers. When they cease being able to obtain or prepare their own food, someone else is enabling them. And we as a society do need to call them out on what they are doing. We can do it without being cruel (and I think Dan did avoid being cruel), but enablers do need to be told that what they are doing is helping their loved one kill themselves, and help them instead to turn things around.
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