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Jan 23 My Name Here commented on Savage Love.

Having a destination wedding as a way to trim the guest list isn't brilliant. It's cowardly.

Jan 23 My Name Here commented on Savage Love.

Spend the money necessary to provide your guests with excellent food and free alcohol, if you're going to offer them a meal at the reception. That's what the guests will remember ten years later, not what kind of party favors they took home afterwards.

Jul 26, 2012 My Name Here commented on SL Letters of the Day: TOP Has Other Options.

I tried the Pill (interfered with another medication I need to take), the NuvaRing (kept falling out), and the Mirena (gave me a non-STD infection). After that, my husband said I'd been through enough, and got a vasectomy. I'm very grateful.

From what I've read, Planned Parenthood is more open-minded about giving a woman who's never been pregnant an IUD.

I liked how you listed a variety of options for your original advice-seeker here, Dan.

Jul 25, 2012 My Name Here commented on Savage Love.

#39, taking the pill for a month, then going off of it for a month, then repeating the process, would likely make her feel more unstable. It's not a good option. A better idea would be to go to Planned Parenthood, and find a birth control method that suits her better.

If the conflict over birth control is the tip of the iceberg in the relationship, then it's time to get some counseling. Unresolved struggles for power can doom a relationship.

This page is a good source of information about the various available versions of the Pill:
http://www.wdxcyber.com/ncontr13.htm

Jul 11, 2012 My Name Here commented on Savage Love.

@52 (Snowguy): Thank you. You wrote everything I was thinking, and did so succinctly and without using inflammatory language.

Jul 4, 2012 My Name Here commented on Other Advice Columnists Wonder Why They Get So Few Questions From Men.

Amy Dickinson is a distant relative of Emily Dickinson, but her writing leaves much to be desired.

@14: It's "discreetly," not "discretely":

discreet adj. Showing discernment or judgement in the guidance of one’s own speech and action; judicious, prudent, circumspect, cautious; often esp. that can be silent when speech would be inconvenient.

discrete adj. Separate, detached from others, individually distinct. Opposed to continuous.

-- http://www.dailywritingtips.com/the-diff…

Jul 3, 2012 My Name Here commented on Are You a Queer Woman Who Dates "Women and Trans Men"?.

This is the kind of topic that makes me wish we could respond directly to other people's comments under their comments, in threaded style. It'd make it easier to keep track of who is discussing what with whom, for one thing.

For anyone who's read this far down and not figured out what "cis" means, here's a definition from the Urban Dictionary:

"Short for 'cisgender' (opposite of 'transgender'), used to describe someone whose gender identity matches their anatomical gender at birth."
-- http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph…

It has a good entry for "cisgendered," too:

The opposite of transgendered, someone who is cisgendered has a gender identity that agrees with their societally recognized sex.

Many transgender people prefer "cisgender" to "biological", "genetic", or "real" male or female because of the implications of those words. Using the term "biological female" or "genetic female" to describe cisgendered individuals excludes transgendered men, who also fit that description. To call a cisgendered woman a "real woman" is exclusive of transwomen, who are considered within their communities to be "real" women, also.
-- http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph…

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Jun 8, 2012 My Name Here commented on Prop 8 Headed to Supreme Court.

I hope you're right, #7 and #11. John Roberts scares me, though--and he seems to be intent on advancing the conservative agenda.

May 31, 2012 My Name Here commented on SL Letter of the Day: John Shore's Advice to a Young Christian.

Good points, #62.

May 15, 2012 My Name Here commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hope Not Nope.

@50: Word. There's a world of difference between, "I would feel degraded in that situation," and "She's been degraded, because that's how I would feel if it were me." Overgeneralizing does not make for a good argument.