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Tom Radcliffe
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Nov 21, 2012 Tom Radcliffe commented on Savage Love.
I can tell which side has the weaker argument on the question of poly as an identity vs a relationship preference: its the one with the insults and chest-thumping declarations about which somewhat arbitrary human categories are "really real".

Reality constrains our categories, it does not determine them. Enlightenment comes with the realization that we don't get to impose our preferred categories on other people's lives, however weird their categories may seem to us.

If people find it useful to identify as poly, then what exactly is wrong with that? Or given how vituperative and bellicose some of the responses here have been perhaps the question should be, "What's so threatening about that?"
Nov 21, 2012 Tom Radcliffe joined My Stranger Face
Nov 21, 2012 Tom Radcliffe commented on Savage Love.
I can tell which side has the weaker argument on the legitimacy of poly as an identity rather than a relationship style: the weaker argument is the one whose proponents feel it necessary to thump their chests and make bellicose declarations regarding the way reality "really is".

True enlightenment is realizing you don't get to impose your categories on other people's lives.

I've got to admit a lot of categories other people use for their identity seem utterly goofy to me: consider the finely graded categories of religious identity from an atheist's perspective for a moment... "I AM a Catholic/Mormon/Buddhist/Galambosian" all sound equally peculiar to my ears. So I'm all for "I really don't get why you think that aspect of what you do is so important as to define what you are." But that's worlds away from the existential claim that "There is REALLY no such thing as a poly identity."
 
 

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