Dec 5, 2012
prak commented on Savage Love.
Polyamory is wrong.
It can be multi-amory, or poly-philia, but mixing Greek and Latin roots is intollerable.
:-D
It can be multi-amory, or poly-philia, but mixing Greek and Latin roots is intollerable.
:-D
Nov 22, 2012
prak commented on Savage Love.
Sorry for the double post. System said I couldn't log in, then magically posted it anyway.
@103, yes, you're quite right. I was just a little put off by Dan's immediate, unquestioning identification of a sexual component from the start.
@103, yes, you're quite right. I was just a little put off by Dan's immediate, unquestioning identification of a sexual component from the start.
Nov 22, 2012
prak joined My Stranger Face
Nov 22, 2012
prak commented on Savage Love.
ok, look, speaking as a martial artist of several decades, I have to point out that there MAY not be a sexual component here. And I reject Dan's answer that there are "no nonsexual" components.
The most suspicious part is that he offered to pay. That, and not wanting to tell the wife about part of it, makes me think that it may have escalated to a sexual component. But as a martial artist, I LIKE to teach. I especially like to teach people, and especially women with whom I have a friendship, to defend themselves. And, it sounds like he waited until he didn't need a babysitter, because beating up the babysitter could look bad. But he may have developed some genuine affection and wanted to teach her to defend herself! I've rolled around with plenty of women in jujitsu, and I've hit and been hit by women in other arts. Even when I've been in a relationship, I don't deny that rolling around on the floor with women is more fun than the hitting part! But if either or both of us is unavailable, I don't hit ON the lady!
It sound to me like this guy could reasonably have just been happy in his marriage and enjoying a young workout partner and a feeling of "community service" - teaching her defense. Then suddenly, he realizes he really likes getting kicked in the nuts. "I wonder," he says to himself, "if I can get her to do that again? That was hot! I'll offer her money!"...
Ok, crossing a line there. That's dishonest. Or, potentially dishonest. There's still a diminishing chance that he just needs to get someone to do this for his newfound training idea... but pretty small chance unless there's more information we're missing.
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The most suspicious part is that he offered to pay. That, and not wanting to tell the wife about part of it, makes me think that it may have escalated to a sexual component. But as a martial artist, I LIKE to teach. I especially like to teach people, and especially women with whom I have a friendship, to defend themselves. And, it sounds like he waited until he didn't need a babysitter, because beating up the babysitter could look bad. But he may have developed some genuine affection and wanted to teach her to defend herself! I've rolled around with plenty of women in jujitsu, and I've hit and been hit by women in other arts. Even when I've been in a relationship, I don't deny that rolling around on the floor with women is more fun than the hitting part! But if either or both of us is unavailable, I don't hit ON the lady!
It sound to me like this guy could reasonably have just been happy in his marriage and enjoying a young workout partner and a feeling of "community service" - teaching her defense. Then suddenly, he realizes he really likes getting kicked in the nuts. "I wonder," he says to himself, "if I can get her to do that again? That was hot! I'll offer her money!"...
Ok, crossing a line there. That's dishonest. Or, potentially dishonest. There's still a diminishing chance that he just needs to get someone to do this for his newfound training idea... but pretty small chance unless there's more information we're missing.
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