Nov 27, 2012
commented on Savage Love
Poly only works if both people are okay with the arrangement AND if ground rules are set AND lived by. My ex-husband is poly and I'm so not. But, when he told me if I couldn't accept it, he'd leave, I decided, for the kids to try and make it work. One of the ground rules was that our bed was our bed and his other girlfriend(s) couldn't share it; a week in, I was on the couch and she was in our bed. It ended up being the best thing for us when I realized after nearly ten years what an emotionally abusive prick he is and divorced him. Now, the kids and I are happy with my boyfriend and we hardly ever talk to or see the ex.