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Dec 1, 2012 kattale commented on Savage Love.
Dan - There is a communication issue at the root of the button-pushing heated discussion about polyamory and non-monogamy and orientation. I think what you (and poly folk) are trying to have is a discussion regarding the chosen or innate nature of non-monogamy.

I thought perhaps this handy translation to what I THINK everyone is trying to say, might aid in the discussion:

OP: "I self-identify as a born non-monogamist who has a relationship with a currently self-identified monogamist. Please use your respected position as a sex columnist to help me manipulate my partner into opening our relationship, and/or provide justification and excuses for when I cheat.

Dan: "You annoy me and you need a smackdown for your non-adherence to the albeit recent modern linguistic conventions of the non-monogamous and sexual-advocacy communities. Also, it is my belief at this time that non-monogamous inclinations are chosen, not innate. I'm not going to provide the excuse for your cheating ass."

The Poly Community: How dare you say that being poly cannot be part of our self-identity! We have a right to identify as poly!!! *list of examples* Also - we feel we have as much right to opinions about the chosen/innate nature of non-monogamy, as queer folk have to opinions on the chosen/innate nature of sexual orientation.
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Dec 1, 2012 kattale commented on Savage Love.
Dan - There is a communication issue at the root of the button-pushing heated discussion about polyamory and non-monogamy and orientation. I think what you (and poly folk) are trying to have is a discussion regarding the chosen or innate nature of non-monogamy.

This is what I am hearing, in the discussion:

OP: "I self-identify as a born non-monogamist who has a relationship with a currently self-identified monogamist. Please use your respected position as a sex columnist to help me manipulate my partner into opening our relationship, and/or provide justification and excuses for when I cheat.

Dan: "You annoy me and you need a smackdown for your non-adherence to the albeit recent modern linguistic conventions of the non-monogamous and sexual-advocacy communities. Also, it is my belief at this time that non-monogamous inclinations are chosen, not innate. I'm not going to provide the excuse for your cheating ass."

The Poly Community: How dare you say that being poly cannot be part of our self-identity! We have a right to identify as poly!!! *list of examples* Also - we feel we have as much right to opinions about the chosen/innate nature of non-monogamy, as queer folk have to opinions on the chosen/innate nature of sexual orientation.
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