Dec 9, 2010 lymerae commented on It Gets Better: Openly Gay Soldier Edition.
Chicagoan here. I tried calling Mark Kirk - the voice mailbox was full and wouldn't accept a message, and no staff were picking up. Any other ways to reach him? Google's not helping me.
Dec 2, 2010 lymerae commented on Required Reading: Andrew Sullivan On the Smithsonian's Cowardice and Bill Donohue's Hatred.
Even if it was deliberately offensive, there would be absolutely no justification whatsoever to pull it from the walls of an art exhibit. That's what art IS. It's not there to reinforce your preconceptions and make you feel complacent; it's there to shake you up.
Sep 14, 2010 lymerae commented on Savage Love.
Am I the only one who found the first question adorable? I mean, how lucky is this guy to have an understanding girlfriend?
Jun 23, 2010 lymerae commented on Selfish Lovers Are Better Sex.
I think a lot of people get turned on at the thought of being fiercely sexually desired, and get off on their partner's pleasure. Thus they need a partner who "selfishly" desires them and takes pleasure in them rather than self-sacrificingly catering to their needs. The way this study is defining "selfish" is kind of misleading, I think; really it seems more about owning your genuine sexual pleasure, and balancing that with being GGG.
Jun 18, 2010 lymerae commented on A Little Good News.
@1 Emergency contraception doesn't "nix future people." It does nothing to affect an existing pregnancy. It is not an abortifacient. By your reasoning, menstrual periods and wet dreams also "nix future people."
May 12, 2010 lymerae commented on SL Letter of the Day: Whatever Lifts Your Luggage.
@5, uh, yeah, you should definitely ask. Or he should speak up. A good way to broach the subject is to tease your way down there during a bj with your fingers or tongue, and then look up and say, "You like that?" As long as you're gentle, I'll bet 99% of the time the answer will be yes. Why would you cut out this whole area of pleasure due to an unvoiced fear that he'll freak out?
May 11, 2010 lymerae commented on Sixth Grade Gaga.
May 11, 2010 lymerae commented on Sixth Grade Gaga.
@13 He's going on Ellen on Thursday.
May 6, 2010 lymerae commented on SL Letter of the Day: One Year Later....
This story seriously made me tear up.

@79, I would start with saying that if they didn't at least stop using that language around me ("I hate ___," "faggots" in a hateful way, etc.), that they would be kicked to the curb. And mean it. Then, once you get them to reign in the outright hate, have some good meaningful conversation about the relationship between different members and sub-groups of the LGBT umbrella - how we've had to be there for one another, the tizzies that have risen up over the years, but in the end how we're nothing without one another. There are few enough of us that we can't afford to throw anyone under the bus. And as an earlier commenter pointed out, in many ways it was the trannies and drag queens that got the gay liberation ball rolling, because they had the courage to fight instead of sinking in to that safe, deadening closet. Then, if possible (and if you think he'll behave himself), introduce him to a transgendered person so he knows who he's talking about.
Apr 28, 2010 lymerae commented on Savage Love.
The crossdressing letter really made me laugh. "Oh noes! My boyfriend has a fetish and it gets me hot too!" Funny how some people will try to make a problem out of anything. Let things go wrong before you start to worry - life's too short for inventing problems that *might* happen down the road.