May 4
quinkygirl commented on The State Says This Pot Isn't Technically "Marijuana".
These strains are important to have to MMJ users.
May 4
quinkygirl commented on How Should Legal Pot Be Labeled?.
@#1 the "risk" that the man speaks of is that wonderful strains that have both psychoactive power and medicinal value will be neglected and forced out of the marketplace by people always reaching for the weeds with the highest THC content. Higher THC does not always the most "righteous" weed make.
Apr 6
quinkygirl commented on Savage Love.
@confused but hopeful -- If you aren't normal, then neither am I, lol. I'm a chick who has fantasized about having a penis. Sometimes, it's just plain hot!
Feb 25
quinkygirl commented on The Onion CEO Apologizes for Quvenzhané Wallis Tweet.
@slab Suri Cruise's Burn Book is child satire done well, because although it "stars" a child, it is skewering US as a culture. This had zero context and came across as bullying. They apologized. Still, this incident hurt their brand. Men have called women that young and younger by precisely that and other names. AND she was sexualized by Seth McFarlane. She's young, gifted, and black -- couldn't they let her have the night?
Dec 17, 2012
quinkygirl commented on I Am Adam Lanza's Mother.
I think it's horrible that any mother would paint her child with this brush publicly.
I sympathize with her plight, but seriously? She's saying that he's a killer. Does she really think that he won't hear of this? What she's done here is very ill-advised.
I sympathize with her plight, but seriously? She's saying that he's a killer. Does she really think that he won't hear of this? What she's done here is very ill-advised.
Dec 12, 2012
quinkygirl commented on Savage Love.
PS - I in no way meant to imply that ^^ is the ONLY way that poly can work without drama. For me, this is what works best. Hands down, even. :)
Dec 12, 2012
quinkygirl commented on Savage Love.
@57 I think that the very fact that my young, fairly hip aesthetician yesterday IN SEATTLE, mind you, couldn't recall hearing the word "polyamorous" before shows that columns like the last three weeks are not only useful but necessary!
Poly, and the discussions surrounding it, may be old hat to you, but to many people, the concept remains foreign.
Poly, and the discussions surrounding it, may be old hat to you, but to many people, the concept remains foreign.
Dec 12, 2012
quinkygirl commented on Savage Love.
@ Treasach Well said!
@252 It's not exhausting at all if you a.) Know yourself well and b.) Take time to get to know someone a little bit before sex clouds the issue. When I met my last lover, we dated for almost two months before consummating things. I dated a whole bunch of guys at that time without getting groiny with any of them. The one that I chose emerged as the clear winner. So far, over a year in, I'm realizing that I chose well.
In my humble opinion, the key things about being successfully poly are pretty much the same things that it takes to be successfully human:
Keep an open heart, act with compassion, and look out for those around you. Own it when you fuck up. And most of all -- KNOW THYSELF. Know and accept that you WILL get hurt. When that happens, don't seek revenge. Move on after grieving for an appropriate time.
Be secure in yourself. Work on those areas where you have insecurities. Ask for what you need. Really listen to others. Treat metamours (the other lovers of your lover) with warmth and compassion. Don't be a sneaky fuck. Be proactive about sexual health and honest about any issues that arise. Remember to develop interests outside the love-life.
Don't fear being alone sometimes.
Being whole-heartedly poly, like being whole-heartedly monogamous (or actually being whole-heartedly anyplace in between) is a great opportunity for personal growth. No matter if we chose this or didn't choose it (I obviously come down for me on the "didn't choose it" side), the key thing is to live our lives according to our own deepest inner truth(s), as long as we aren't hurting anyone else.
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@252 It's not exhausting at all if you a.) Know yourself well and b.) Take time to get to know someone a little bit before sex clouds the issue. When I met my last lover, we dated for almost two months before consummating things. I dated a whole bunch of guys at that time without getting groiny with any of them. The one that I chose emerged as the clear winner. So far, over a year in, I'm realizing that I chose well.
In my humble opinion, the key things about being successfully poly are pretty much the same things that it takes to be successfully human:
Keep an open heart, act with compassion, and look out for those around you. Own it when you fuck up. And most of all -- KNOW THYSELF. Know and accept that you WILL get hurt. When that happens, don't seek revenge. Move on after grieving for an appropriate time.
Be secure in yourself. Work on those areas where you have insecurities. Ask for what you need. Really listen to others. Treat metamours (the other lovers of your lover) with warmth and compassion. Don't be a sneaky fuck. Be proactive about sexual health and honest about any issues that arise. Remember to develop interests outside the love-life.
Don't fear being alone sometimes.
Being whole-heartedly poly, like being whole-heartedly monogamous (or actually being whole-heartedly anyplace in between) is a great opportunity for personal growth. No matter if we chose this or didn't choose it (I obviously come down for me on the "didn't choose it" side), the key thing is to live our lives according to our own deepest inner truth(s), as long as we aren't hurting anyone else.
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