commented on The Utter Failure of the Log Cabin Republicans
@4, Drop that mic, dude(tte).
@5, That's the problem; the party has gotten more and more crazy (forgive me for sounding ableist, but I can't think of a better term) over the years, and the Tea Party coalition just tipped them over the edge.
@9, Well, they want it small enough to fit inside a woman's uterus. If I wanted politics in my vagina, though, I'd fuck a politician.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Secret Perving—Permissible and Impermissible
"If obtaining consent is the gold standard for other kink forms of sexual self expression, why shouldn't it be the same for voyeurism?"
@22: THIS. But then that would mean that perhaps a foot-fetishist should not be a shoe salesman or a podiatrist, as few people would want some dude getting off on their feet, even if he hides it well in public.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Family Affair
@34 Throw in some VC Andrews novels for good measure while you're at it. All the ones I've read have fucked-up incesty themes.
Now, I've been in a relationship forever, so I'm not familiar with dating sites, but don't they want you to have a picture of your face so people can see what you look like? Especially something like Tinder, where I understand people judge one another on looks. And even if they didn't, wouldn't you want to exchange photos before meeting since in this day and age, it's pretty fucking easy to say, here's a photo of me so you know what I look like? Am I missing something here?
And what was the reasoning behind LW claiming he was gay to his parents when he isn't? That's beyond fucked up and stupid. Eesh.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Coworker Is Vetting Sugar Daddies!
I gotta disagree with you here,Dan. What Wannabe Sugar Baby is doing is a conflict of interest at best and illegal at worst. It's not sexphobic or anti-sex worker to not want your colleagues at a non-sex-related business to look for sugar daddies on company time. And if WSB told our letter writer in a drunken moment, who else has she told? And LW could get into trouble herself if she knew of the unethical behavior and didn't tell someone.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Wife Has Issues (And a Boyfriend)
My understanding of poly relationships is that BOTH parties are allowed secondary partners or they both share the third in their relationship. I'm not sure, but I think a relationship where wifey moves her sexually ambiguous pal into the house and fucks him while the husband has to be satisfied with crumbs from her and can't even get her to go in on a MMF romp would not qualify as poly. It does qualify as selfish. And she may not have been a sexual person before, but she is now, just not with you. And anyone, male or female, who wants to be able to have multiple partners but doesn't want to afford his/her spouse that right, is a selfish fuck.
I gotta say, this marriage doesn't seem worth worth saving. Your kid's a teenager (pity the woman from yesterday, whose kids are probably all under 7), so the custody arrangements should be a bit easier, and in a few years, your kid will hopefully be mostly independent.
commented on "That's my husband."
@8 Marriage is a social and legal construct. It has changed vastly over the centuries, and the changes have come faster and faster, even in my lifetime. It doesn't matter to me if two men get married, if two women get married, if a man and a woman marry. If they love each other and want to build a life together, they should be able to. The story of the man concerned for his critically ill spouse and that of the woman who was treated as a second-class citizen while her wife was dying is exactly why people fought for marriage equality.
Against same-sex marriage? Don't have one!
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Good Wife (And Her Sister)
Dude, she kissed you when she was drunk and probably regrets it deeply because she doesn't want to do anything that hurts her sister, and that includes a relationship with you that isn't strictly platonic. People do stupid shit when they're drunk that they regret when they're sober. This is one such case. If you want to be poly, and your wife agrees, make sure your third isn't someone who's related to either of you.