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Dec 17, 2012 ChrisWoj commented on I Am Adam Lanza's Mother.
I know some of you will hate me for this. But I doubt very many of you were that young man. My name is Chris. I attempted suicide multiple times before I was 13 years old. I ran off into sub-20 degree temperatures to hide in the woods in attempts to let myself die. I let myself drop from rooftops. I broke my brother's ankle in a fit of anger. I threatened myself and others with knives.

I was in every way mentioned in this article: the same as "Michael." And right now the problem I see with this article is that the woman writing it isn't strong enough to handle her life and the lot she's been tossed. The only possible issue I see is that a second parent is never mentioned. If she's without a father or another mother (if that is the way she goes)... She may well need help.

But if she has a significant other in Michael's life, and she's this despondent: the only help she needs is someone to kick her in the ass and get her to wake up. Her son doesn't need a national initiative. Her son doesn't need heavy medication. What her son needs is a support system consisting of strong adults that will guide him through his issues, teach him to understand how his every action affects those around him, and will help him in his quest to be a part of this world.

Every time I read a "cry for help" article like this I think of my parents who, when I was 13, tried to drop me off at a place like the one she mentioned. They started the paper work. They had me at a mental facility. It feels like a long distant nightmare now. But when they saw the world in front of me if they skirted their responsibilities they decided not to sign the paper work. They took me home. To a home where, yes, I had two younger siblings that they would have to protect. With pets that I had treated poorly. With their electronics and possessions I had broken in the past, walls I had punched through.

And they guided me, helped me, and did everything in their power despite working to keep our family afloat. They turned me into a successful adult. I'm 27 years old. I've spent the last three years teaching. My best work has been with students with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I'm getting a Master's of Education for life sciences right now and intend to continue to work with children. Kids with issues like mine don't need national initiatives or drugs. We don't need strangers counseling us. We need a family and support system that is close to us. I'm still not perfect. I have issues. I'm insecure. I'm awkward in social situations. I have my issues. But I'm a successful part of our world because my parents didn't look for the easy way out and beg for help from others.

My parents accepted their responsibilities and made me who I am today, and I couldn't be happier with the progress I've made as a result.
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Dec 17, 2012 ChrisWoj commented on I Am Adam Lanza's Mother.
I know some of you will hate me for this. But I doubt very many of you were that young man. My name is Chris. I attempted suicide multiple times before I was 13 years old. I ran off into sub-20 degree temperatures to hide in the woods in attempts to let myself die. I let myself drop from rooftops. I broke my brother's ankle in a fit of anger. I threatened myself and others with knives.

I was in every way mentioned in this article: the same as "Michael." And right now the problem I see with this article is that the woman writing it isn't strong enough to handle her life and the lot she's been tossed. The only possible issue I see is that a second parent is never mentioned. If she's without a father or another mother (if that is the way she goes)... She may well need help.

But if she has a significant other in Michael's life, and she's this despondent: the only help she needs is someone to kick her in the ass and get her to wake up. Her son doesn't need a national initiative. Her son doesn't need heavy medication. What her son needs is a support system consisting of strong adults that will guide him through his issues, teach him to understand how his every action affects those around him, and will help him in his quest to be a part of this world.

Every time I read a "cry for help" article like this I think of my parents who, when I was 13, tried to drop me off at a place like the one she mentioned. They started the paper work. They had me at a mental facility. It feels like a long distant nightmare now. But when they saw the world in front of me if they skirted their responsibilities they decided not to sign the paper work. They took me home. To a home where, yes, I had two younger siblings that they would have to protect. With pets that I had treated poorly. With their electronics and possessions I had broken in the past, walls I had punched through.

And they guided me, helped me, and did everything in their power despite working to keep our family afloat. They turned me into a successful adult. I'm 27 years old. I've spent the last three years teaching. My best work has been with students with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I'm getting a Master's of Education for life sciences right now and intend to continue to work with children. Kids with issues like mine don't need national initiatives or drugs. We don't need strangers counseling us. We need a family and support system that is close to us. I'm still not perfect. I have issues. I'm insecure. I'm awkward in social situations. I have my issues. But I'm a successful part of our world because my parents didn't look for the easy way out and beg for help from others.

My parents accepted their responsibilities and made me who I am today, and I couldn't be happier with the progress I've made as a result.
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