commented on SL Letter of the Day: Two Graves, One Book
Assuming everything went down exactly as stated here, the only thing the wife is guilty of is trying to give her marriage another chance. The LW and the husband, however, have been on an extended assholic spree that the former now wants to punctuate with a monumental homemade tome of yet more epic assholery. The husband may have lied, but the LW fucked up her own marriage, her rage is misdirected (the wife did nothing to her), and her book is beyond petty. First step to not being an asshole is to admit you're an asshole, not to double down on your shitty behavior. Just walk away.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Help for CLIT, Thanks from WTBO
Mon chapeau rose@12, nocutename@13, Pridge Wessea@14: Like kissing or massaging, questions and responsiveness are key. Which, at base, is all a matter of caring.
nocutename: It's wonderful to see your avatar as well and I will try my very best to check in more often. :)
Pridge: Just wanted to say Hey! How's married life?
Ophian: Type all of that again... real slow.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Help For CLIT, Thanks From WTBO
nocutename@ 2: That is really depressing. Obviously I don't know much about vaginal or clitoral stimulation- that's not my ministry- but I do know that everybody is wired differently, even if you share the same sex. Which is why I ask what works for any partner I have individually. This approach wasn't difficult to figure out so my guess is that it's a fear or ego thing with some men that prevents them from asking questions. I'd be a lot more afraid/ashamed to have someone tell me they never had a good time with me after the fact.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Say Goodbye To My Racist Family?
I hadn't spoken to my father for nearly 2 years when he died. I very briefly felt like I had missed out on something but then I realized that I had only responded to his actions. I didn't so much decide to no longer speak to him as he decided to be an abusive, hostile and insufferable asshole. It's been 13 years and I remain untroubled by my choice.
@sissoucat: My father did the same thing your ex-husband did. The thing about sociopaths is that eventually his hatefulness will be directed at whomever is close to him, not just you. It already is; his constant invective about you around your kids is abusive to them in and of itself (just as my father used to while we stayed at his house on the weekends). They will come to see his actual nature, probably sooner rather than later. Try your best to hang in there until then. And I'm so sorry you have to endure this for now.