Nov 20, 2013
commented on City Put On Notice: Angry Tourist Will Never Again Visit MOHAI!
@12 and @17 if a person is too dumb to be able to back OUT of a space without getting into an accident, why would it be any easier to back INTO a space without getting into an accident? At least backing out you're usually doing so into a lane of traffic with space on either side, backing in there's almost always a car on either side.
Jul 10, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mutually Intoxicated Destruction
I think we need a rule for drinking and fucking like the one for statutory rape. It's illegal to fuck a 14 year old-- but it's not mutual statutory rape if two 14-year-olds have sex. Same way, it's wrong to fuck someone who's wasted if you're sober, but if you're both equally wasted then it's not suddenly mutual rape. I'd put the cutoff somewhere around both parties should be within about .1% BAC on a first encounter-- otherwise you're talking about someone stone-cold sober trying to get with someone who's slurring, or a drunk person with someone who's nearly passed out.
Mar 15, 2013
commented on Child Rape, Inc.
@33 I hope you're right. Francis hasn't been implicated in any of the abuse scandals or coverups to date, unlike JP and Benedict. Then again, the scandal blew up in the US in the early 2000s, but the abuse in Europe wasn't discovered until a couple years ago. I really just hope it never becomes Latin America's turn (obviously if there was abuse, I hope it comes to light-- but I hope there is no heretofore hidden abuse yet to be discovered).
Mar 13, 2013
commented on My Reaction to the New Pope
Here's his Guardian bio:
He supports the poor. He brought the hammer down on retrograde priests who tried to deny the sacraments to unwed mothers or who said that condoms were wrong to prevent disease. He lives simply. And he's a Jesuit, and Jesuits have a reputation as the freethinkers in the Catholic church.
Is he going to suddenly support gay marriage? No. Married/women priests? Probably not. But I think for those of us who would like the Catholic church to come around, perhaps moving the FOCUS of "what it is to be Catholic" away from sexual issues and putting it squarely on the social Gospel is the likeliest path to longer-term reform. It would be wonderful just to have the priests in the pulpit telling their flock to minister to the poor rather than to protest abortion clinics.
In short, out of the Cardinals in that conclave, he's as good a pick as one could expect. And you never know. John XXIII was supposed to be a conservative when they elected him, too.
Feb 18, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Baby Talk
WAA never makes clear whether "when we're getting close" means sex or cuddling. If sex, yeah, I think Dan's right about this being a tacit fetish that's being tested out. But for cuddling, well, my wife and I do this all the time (and it sounds like 1, 4, 6, etc.)-- we talk to each other like we're each other's favorite teddy bear. Probably because, well, under what other circumstances was cuddling up in bed at night appropriate, except as a young child with a stuffed animal, prior to having an intimate partner? Key is here that it's not a turn-on for us, and very well may not have been for WAA's partner either.
That said I can imagine that for some people it wouldn't be fun and cozy, just weird, even in the situation I describe. If so, by all means, follow Dan's advice.
Jan 21, 2013
commented on Obama Officially Sworn In
@13 "So help me God" is not part of the Oath given in the Constitution. It has always been said afterward, according to tradition, but is not a part of it (you can imagine that the Buddhist president we elect in 2036 isn't going to want to add it).
As a result, Roberts, having administered the Oath, says, as a question, "So help you God?" (you can hear his voice raise at the end as a verbal question mark). And Obama answers, "So help me God."
Jan 19, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Schooling Your Instructor
@18 I'm pretty sure it was actually a podcast call-- I started listening to the archives fairly recently. But I think you have the story and the advice correct. That said I also at the time was thinking, "Dan's right, probably not pedophile... but..."
Jan 18, 2013
commented on My Girlfriend Who Dies In California
Until Dan tweeted and blogged this, I just couldn't figure it out-- nothing made sense with this. Now, though, everything just clicks into place-- why his male friend, of all people, would organize the hoax, why he'd be on the phone for hours (supposedly with a female accomplice of his male friend perpetrating the hoax? huh?), why his friend's female friend would volunteer to be in the pictures, why the girlfriend would need to be killed off right after his grandma died (clearly she wasn't going to be able to go to his grandma's funeral).
Not that it couldn't have been a hoax on him-- I could totally imagine a young man falling for it; I had a long-distance relationship myself in college, you get used to the idea that the phone is your relationship (but I did, you know, see her in person during the breaks and videochat). But the motives of the other people weren't making sense. Until now.