commented on Savage Love
@NCA, Sometimes there is bit of an adrenaline rush from a relationship that doesn't quite work: Maybe a thrill of the chase, a going out on a limb and doing something new to "try and make it work." it can be both intoxicating and devastating. Sometimes in the rush we forget to do what inspires ourselves and go mad. Whatever it is, the biggest danger of this "incompatibility rush" is that it makes a perfectly happy functioning relationship seem boring by comparison. Try things YOU have always wanted to try with your current lover. Do good things for yourself with yourself with which your lover can be a part or not (a good relationship has alone time for both). It's subtle maybe "boring" but it can lead to something more satisfying in the long term.