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Mar 17 consensual_nonconsent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Defensive Dumping.
I would like to remind LW of two assertive rights that will help them make a decision; from Manuel J. Smith's "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty":
"You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior."
"You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them."

Your feelings of resentment will only continue you to grow if you stay with this person. Do what is right for you and don't feel guilty about it.
Sep 13, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on SLLOTD: Pissed Off.
The clinical term for pee shyness is paruresis and it does occur in both men and women. It's a form of social phobia.

The best treatment for it, as with most phobias is gradual exposure. Start at a level where you know you can pee, and slowly introduce variables that would make you less comfortable (i.e. pee with the bathroom door open, pee with someone standing behind the door, pee with someone inside the bathroom, etc). You need to unlearn whatever thoughts you have that are making you freeze up. This is a slow process that should be done over weeks/months and not just a few days.
Apr 4, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on The Worst Place On Earth.
The lack of rational reasoning by people who support laws like this is amusing and disturbing. Lets follow their line of logic (@10, @14):
1. There is currently no legal restriction to allow men to enter women's restrooms and vice-versa
2. Therefore we should make a law that would restrict people to only use the bathroom of their birth sex
3. Because if we don't then there will be men pretending to be women so that they can sneak into the women's restroom.

Two questions to these types of people:
Q1. Right now, what's stopping a man from pretending to be a women so that they can sneak into a woman's restroom? (hint: nothing)
Q2. Follow up to Q1: How big of an issues is this currently? (considering that these supports are citing future hypothetical scenario instead of past events that might give credibility to their augment, my guess is that this is a non issue).

Making a law to solve a problem that does not exist is just stupid.
Feb 12, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on This Is Offense To the BLT Community.
@4 I don't think vegans/vegetarians would like to be bacon.

Hmm how about LGBTQ (Q for quail egg)
Feb 12, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Longterm Lockup.
This letter came at the perfect time for me. My owner and I just started exploring chastity play and I've been wearing it on and off for the past week. Plan was to wear it till the end of the month (with some exceptions such as being allowed to remove it daily up to 1 hour for cleaning purposes). However, I'm now thinking we need to rethink our arrangement. Btw if anyone is wondering, I'm using the CB Curve.
Feb 5, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on Another Attempt At a Grindr For Straights.
@39 "...they had a lot more experience with women and relationships ?"
No, those older men were probably more receptive to your straightforwardness because they were more secure with themselves then the younger guys you approached.

"How hard it is, not to think in stereotypes."

If you don't want people to think in stereotypes please stop asking stereotype-based questions such as:

"are women choosier than men...."
"Do we, as a group, so often lie on what exactly we want..."
Feb 5, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on Another Attempt At a Grindr For Straights.
@29 As much as guys say they would like women to be more up front and to take initiative, for some guys that is very rare that when it does happen they doubt the woman and think there has to be more to it. But really this doubt comes from their own insecurities.
Feb 5, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on Another Attempt At a Grindr For Straights.
It seems like the makers of this app are trying to be tongue-in-cheek by using the word "bang" when referring to casual sex, not to mention their How It Works section (How to Bang as they put it) however, it comes off as very juvenile and this is why it will fail. It's like teenagers trying to find a way to "score".
Feb 5, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on Another Attempt At a Grindr For Straights.
@21 I see where you are coming from and I totally agree.

The "danger" element for guys is being asked to commit to someone they don't have an interest in and having to tell that person the truth.

source: @24
Feb 1, 2013 consensual_nonconsent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Get Your Twink On.
@Sargon Bighorn Wow, the ignorance in your comments is quite astounding..

@22, you're confusing between being sexually attracted and physically attracted to someone - although there is an overlap they are not synonymous. The LW appears to be very much sexually attracted to her partner, otherwise she would not say things such as:
"he makes me wet and horny like a slut and I come crazy hard."
"[I am] having more orgasms than ever before"
She's not faking these orgasm, she's just faking her physically attraction towards him. Attractions (just like physical appearances) change over time.