Jan 29
Demi Moaned commented on
Savage Love Episode 327.
This is the second time I've heard Dan promoting the idea of the ethical necessity of disclosing a history of herpes. But I can't quite reconcile this supposed urgency with the information that basically 100% of the population is infected. (Let's not belabor the distinction between HSV1 and HSV2.)
In more than 30 years of sexual encounters with a wide variety of men I have NEVER had someone tell me they have a history of herpes. So, I'm having a hard time imagining a community where this is an active ethical standard.
If I'm having an outbreak I will decline sexual contact and may even frankly give the reason. This has sometimes elicited a response from the other guy that he has a prior herpes infection, too.
But I'm not convinced that it is important for me to mention this in a casual encounter when I'm asymptomatic.
Jan 26
Demi Moaned commented on
Savage Love Episode 326.
A lot of excellent comments here about the segment featuring Dr. Klein.
I'm a great fan of Dan Savage. He's generally very insightful into the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. He takes the trouble to be well-informed and overall I view him as a force for good in our society.
But his extravagant praise of Dr. Klein's glib and intellectually lazy arguments showed a deficiency of critical thinking that was disappointing.
Jan 26
Demi Moaned commented on
Savage Love Episode 326.
A lot of excellent comments here about the segment featuring Dr. Klein.
I'm a great fan of Dan Savage. He's generally very insightful into the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. He takes the trouble to be well-informed and overall I view him as a force for good in our society.
But his extravagant praise of Dr. Klein's glib and intellectually lazy arguments showed a deficiency of critical thinking that was disappointing.
In more than 30 years of sexual encounters with a wide variety of men I have NEVER had someone tell me they have a history of herpes. So, I'm having a hard time imagining a community where this is an active ethical standard.
If I'm having an outbreak I will decline sexual contact and may even frankly give the reason. This has sometimes elicited a response from the other guy that he has a prior herpes infection, too.
But I'm not convinced that it is important for me to mention this in a casual encounter when I'm asymptomatic.