Jan 29, 2013 Styler commented on SL Letter of the Day: So And So.
He's been following the entire post.
Jan 28, 2013 Styler commented on SL Letter of the Day: So And So.
Avast2006, husband's family doesn't ever speak to mine....ever. They've never met one another and I'm not sure the majority of his family even knows their names, much less how to contact them and chat with them about my lifestyle.
I don't agree with your basic premise...but I see your point. What you need to understand is NTFN is a maker of grand gestures... I am not. This is not indicative of lack of commitment, simply lack of desire to argue my lifestyle with individuals that exist in the far boundaries of my awareness.
Jan 27, 2013 Styler commented on SL Letter of the Day: So And So.
Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy are two separate things Latebloomer. Our emotional intimacy has not diminished at all.
Jan 27, 2013 Styler commented on SL Letter of the Day: So And So.
Ok... More info.
H's mother and sister, the two of his family members we see on a regular basis absolutely know. These were additional rarely seen family members.
Davidinkenai we were married for 6 years before anything changed. Additionally, I communicated my feelings with both he and a therapist prior to any life changes. He was the one to suggest a triad.
This just happened last week. We will solve this problem and move on. Please don't tell me that none of you ever encounter any areas in your interpersonal relationships that isn't 100% smooth.
Jan 26, 2013 Styler commented on SL Letter of the Day: So And So.
Davidinkenai you sound bitter.
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Jan 26, 2013 Styler commented on SL Letter of the Day: So And So.
Hmmm... As a member of this triad let me give you a little bit of extra info.
First, for all of you that think NTFN needs a lawyer...
1. She is indeed on the title of the house.
2. The children are most important and there is a great lawyer currently filing legal conservatorship for her for the child she did not carry so that she has full legal rights to him. Her name is on the second child's birth certificate along with dad. The same lawyer is filing legal for legal conservatorship for me for this child. This was well thought out in advance. She was not a surrogate and we did not use her DNA simply because she was unable to... We tried that first.
Next, these family members are people that we haven't seen for 3 years and have spoken to maybe twice in that time span.
As for my family, not only are they religious, bigoted and mostly close minded people.... I don't like them. I haven't seen the majority of them for 10 plus years and some more like 20. I don't plan on seeing them. Why should I write or speak to them simply to explain my lifestyle?! I have informed my mother and sister (father is dead) and they are the only two that matter to me. All our close friends and coworkers know.
I did not know that his family had no idea of who she was, but feel that her hurt feelings were not something I could fix at that precise moment. The situation was not ideal in any way shape or form.
I love both "she and he" dearly and love my life with both of them.
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