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Aug 4, 2015 crazyprotein commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Advising On a Tight Deadline.
I have been in a similar situation
This whole "you're the best but I need three weeks to think" is a slow pulling of the band-aid. I think this is a classical he's not that into you.
Some people just think that saying things like "I'm very happy with you. This is the best relationship of my life" would make you feel better about yourself while in reality it's just hella confusing.

Walk away with your head high.
Jan 28, 2015 crazyprotein commented on SL Letter of the Day: She Had Her First Threesome And....
Oh threesomes, aren't they fun!

I don't want to sound silly and sappy, but one of the best things that happened to me in the last several years in discovering Savage Lovecast, then books, and blog, and live shows. It changed my life for the best. I am in awe and eternal gratitude.
Jan 26, 2015 crazyprotein commented on SL Letter of the Day: Closure.
I'd like to add about closure in general

Closure is always on your side. Imagine you find him online, but he has died. He is dead. You will never know, he will never apologize. What, are you going to live the rest of your life unhappy because you didn't get closure for this?
Gove yourself closure. Move on. Do it for yourself.
Jan 19, 2015 crazyprotein commented on SL Letter of the Day: Violating New Rules.
I think that calling each other to ask for permission to have sex with this particular person is a rule that pretty much makes the whole permission to sleep with other people in general unusable.
If you can't handle your love to fuck other people, so be it. But I think that this couple just had a bullshit prohibitive rule for their open relationship.
And that's where the mistake is. SVTR would've not let her fuck this other guy. It's very clear. So he wants her to ask him so he can say no every time.
Nov 25, 2014 crazyprotein commented on SL Letter of the Day: Profile & Courage.
so to start with credentials: I dated married couples and married men, I am very familiar with this area of relationship science. also I spent quite a bit of time on OKC. I'm a female in my 30s from a fun place called San Francisco. I am a huge Dan's fan.


1. don't lie on OKC. that is a lie. and it's shitty. you are not going to start a good thing from such lies.

2. get offline. when you are talking to someone in person and your full charm is in place, disclosing the fact that you are in an open marriage is at least a conversation starter. yes, you will be rejected more than signle guys. but that's a given. your chances offline are much higher. you can use your brain and be cool and fun about it. you can do a unicorn hunt for the both of you, too. it's a sexy fun conversation to have with a lady. if you are cool about it and take no for an answer.

3. don't lie online that you are single.

good luck

Dec 5, 2013 crazyprotein commented on Savage Love.
a husband telling his wife to peg his BROTHER is EWWWWWWW and just so wrong!
and her considering that is no better
Feb 27, 2013 crazyprotein commented on Savage Love.
#36 LOL thanks for that comment!
Feb 27, 2013 crazyprotein commented on Savage Love.
to #49
"and how about not defaulting to PIV?"

PIV is great and avoiding it entirely so you don't have to bother about birth control is just sad
Feb 27, 2013 crazyprotein commented on Savage Love.
Why didn't this doctor mention NUVARING? It solves a problem with 'typical-use' failure. That's why I never took pills, just seems too annoying.
But you insert it yourself, take it out for a week, then keep one in place for 2 weeks, and you dont have to go through painful installation of IUD.

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