May 8
kindsight commented on Savage Love.
@31 No, we're not diagnosing depression, we're saying he should get to someone who can make that diagnosis. Your dismissal of it - over the internet - is the position that is truly ignorant and idiotic.
Really, all this shows is that the stigma attached to even a suggestion of clinical depression is still strong, that people don't really believe it's an illness. Imagine someone writing in with post-natal depression and similar symptoms and you would never get the same responses.
Again - this is stuff the LW can do *in addition* to putting herself in a better position. Because some people actually take an interest in the wellbeing of people close to them. Drastic, I know.
And what's with all the conspiracy theorists who think that someone held down a full-time job for years and broke their foot just to lure someone into a marriage? Seriously people?
Really, all this shows is that the stigma attached to even a suggestion of clinical depression is still strong, that people don't really believe it's an illness. Imagine someone writing in with post-natal depression and similar symptoms and you would never get the same responses.
Again - this is stuff the LW can do *in addition* to putting herself in a better position. Because some people actually take an interest in the wellbeing of people close to them. Drastic, I know.
And what's with all the conspiracy theorists who think that someone held down a full-time job for years and broke their foot just to lure someone into a marriage? Seriously people?
May 8
kindsight commented on Savage Love.
@23 I would ask why does she want to save this marriage?
Because it's not every day you meet someone "driven, hardworking, loving, and happy. We had amazing, cosmic, and connected sex". Sure there's no such thing as "the one", but you don't meet someone you can round up to the one very often!
@24 Not everyone is the same as you seandr! Apathy (including re: sex) and avoidance behaviour are classic diagnostic symptoms. He should get to a qualified medical practitioner to decide.
Because it's not every day you meet someone "driven, hardworking, loving, and happy. We had amazing, cosmic, and connected sex". Sure there's no such thing as "the one", but you don't meet someone you can round up to the one very often!
@24 Not everyone is the same as you seandr! Apathy (including re: sex) and avoidance behaviour are classic diagnostic symptoms. He should get to a qualified medical practitioner to decide.
May 8
kindsight commented on Savage Love.
Absolutely agree with the commentors saying clinical depression. Get him the fuck to a psychologist or psychiatrist immediately so he can start sorting his shit out.
That doesn't mean TSTQ has to put up with his issues of course - mental illnesses are not a free pass to treat people like shit and take them for granted.
That doesn't mean TSTQ has to put up with his issues of course - mental illnesses are not a free pass to treat people like shit and take them for granted.
Feb 5
kindsight commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
We're all just gonna pretend that a man who point blank turns down a pointed reminder to wear a condom so he can fuck a woman in the ass doesn't know what he's doing are we?
Please, an 18 year old (especially one who takes drugs, has already used condoms twice during the session and then goes for anal sex) knows they're supposed to wear a condom, and he chose a bit more sensation and social transgression over safety.
Not that it changes the fact that Dan is spot on about "cold sores" being a deceptive euphemism for herpes, but let's not pretend both parties can't shoulder some of the responsibility here.
Please, an 18 year old (especially one who takes drugs, has already used condoms twice during the session and then goes for anal sex) knows they're supposed to wear a condom, and he chose a bit more sensation and social transgression over safety.
Not that it changes the fact that Dan is spot on about "cold sores" being a deceptive euphemism for herpes, but let's not pretend both parties can't shoulder some of the responsibility here.
Feb 5
kindsight joined My Stranger Face
Feb 5
kindsight commented on Savage Love.
Some people want to do all their crazy, kinky, makes-them-horny stuff with the person they're also emotionally intimate with, or live with, or share life goals and a world view with etc etc.
What you're missing is that different people are different :)
What you're missing is that different people are different :)
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I mean, let's not even get into the can of worms where man at home all day = loser, woman at home all day = woman.