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Feb 23, 2015 SarahTheUnstoppable commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Comes Up (Or: A Question From Someone Who Couldn't Follow My Advice to #FuckFirst on Valentine's Day).
I was surprised by Dan's answer of once a year, especially since his column about the feeder girl and her gainer boyfriend is always the first to come up when I google SLLOTD. To quote Dan:

"Even if indulging your fetish shaves a year or two off his life, well, people throw away decades of their lives for lesser pleasures. People smoke, ride motorcycles without helmets, and stick their rear ends in the air in skank-ass sex clubs. Our bodies are our own, FAT; they're ours to use, abuse, and, since we're all going to die one day, they're ours to USE UP."

I guess I can't read about a couple getting that much sexual pleasure from each other without rooting for them to keep doing it (no matter how gross).
Jan 28, 2015 SarahTheUnstoppable commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wonderful Fiancé Turns Out To Be Total Shit Stain.
A lot of people are saying the LW should get therapy to figure out "why she keeps getting involved with assholes."

I would hesitate to ascribe to the LW some sort of invisible property that draws her unconsciously towards assholes. That sounds a little like believing in ether, the undetectable substance that was previously hypothesized to occupy all space and provide a medium for the travel of light.

In fact, light requires no medium to travel, and two men behaving in an entitled way towards the same woman on the same day requires no otherworldly explanation.

Certainly not an explanation that ascribes quasi-magical powers to the LW.
Jan 9, 2015 SarahTheUnstoppable commented on Savage Love.
I think Dan's advice for MMM is great!

MMM, you're "achingly unsure of whether or not I made the right choice" of sex act, Maybe your girlfriend feels that way every night! You're a sexual power vacuum, and she's filling it--which she may very well love, or love most of the time, but on at least a few occasions she's let you know she wants a break.

She's not asking (necessarily) for some amazing sex fantasy she's never heard before, I think she just wants you to pick the position every so often, because she does it all the other times. (Who else did you think was doing it? Did you think there was like a sidebar on that she checked every day? Did you think it just happened "organically"?)

Anyways, I sounded mean but I didn't mean to be. You're doing a-ok! You don't need to be less boring, just remember that picking the position is a job that not everyone like, because, case in point, you don't like it. So maybe she doesn't either, and maybe you can figure out how to share it.
Aug 28, 2014 SarahTheUnstoppable commented on SL Letter of the Day: Fuck That Guy.
Dude, vennominon, she specifically says the subjective beautiful. It's right there in the letter: "someone who I think is beautiful."
Nov 19, 2013 SarahTheUnstoppable commented on Savage Love.
Dan tackles this mismatched libido question a lot. I think it's worth mentioning that people who are low-libido in one relationship could be high-libido in another. People are together for all sorts of reasons and sometimes sacrifice sexual passion for other virtues in a partner. I think it's likely that women do this more often than men, but who knows.

Just another reason to break up and find a better match.
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Feb 13, 2013 SarahTheUnstoppable commented on Savage Love.
I think it's worth asking, that if it's NOT okay to tell a teenager you think he might be gay, why is it okay to tell him not to have gay sex in his room?

Do you see what I mean? It's like, "I'd like to allow my kid a little privacy around his sex life, so I'm not going to force him to tell me what gender he prefers, but I'd really like to forbid him from sex with that gender so I need to ask what it is."

I know lots and lots of parents "forbid" their kids from having sex, so mine might be a fringe opinion. I just generally think grown ups should butt out a little more.