Jul 24, 2015
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: How Can a Teacher Show Support for a Trans Student with Unsupportive Parents?
First, let me join the chorus in thanking you for putting yourself intentionally into this boy's life. You are the kind of teacher I always hope my child will get.
Using the young mans last name was my first thought, too. Hell, call him and ALL the boys by their last names and all the girls by their first names. If that doesn't send a clear message, while staying within the letter of the law, nothing will. Maybe while you are at it, adopt a habit of using gender neutral pronouns for everyone.
Apr 11, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Unscrew the Pooch
"life is basically one big issue after another, and she may have concluded that you're incapable of having an issue and being a decent boyfriend simultaneously."
I'm going to be thinking about that all day. I hadn't ever thought of it in quite those terms before, but yeah, an important quality in people I think are good friends, and who seem to be good partners, is the ability to not be eternally wrapped up in your own issues. To have some spare emotional energy for those around you.
Sep 10, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Forever Grateful
This is the kind of advice that really sets you apart, Dan. Thank you.
CAT, I really wish you the best, and I hope you take what Dan says to heart. Of course you are grateful to your boyfriend for his part in helping you move forward with your life after you were assaulted, but you did the hard work. You have a lot to be proud of and you have an amazing life ahead of you, knowing how strong and resilient you are.
I wish you the very best, however you decide to proceed with this relationship.
Aug 30, 2014
commented on The Official Trailer for Transparent
The primary issue isn't and never was that the actor must BE whatever the role is. That's what the acting is for. The issue is that for decades there were no gay roles, and actors who were even suspected of being queer could barely find work, because "no one will believe you in a romantic role" etc... and now that there finally ARE gay roles being written, queer roles, trans* roles... who is playing these wonderful roles? Cis straight men, naturally.
At the end of the day, though, it makes sense from a business standpoint. Tambor is a known actor with a following. There may well be a trans* actor who could play the shit out of that role. I am certain there is. But no one, at the moment, knows their name, and no one is going to bankroll a project that they are anchoring.
I'm going to rejoice that the series was made, rather than mourn that it's perfect doppleganger died in development.