Nov 29 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Done Dumped Me Wrong.
@12: Yeap. Vacation put them in close proximity to each other AND OTHER PEOPLE for a more extended period of time, and the girlfriend realized she didn't want to spend the rest of her life like that. End Of Relationship.

She probably can't explain why because she doesn't know logically why, she just knows she didn't want to spend more time with him.
Nov 26 biggie commented on How Green Is My Recount?.
Clinton lost the election because Pennsylvania, Michigan and Wisconsin stack the deck - no early voting without specific reason for the first two, greatly reduced early voting for the first.

Yes, restrictive voting laws do stop people from voting, and in this election, it worked.
Nov 2 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An HPV Diagnosis—To Disclose Or Not To Disclose?.
Let me put it this way:

If you have had sex with someone, absent some extremely strong evidence they were a virgin, you can never claim you've never had an SD again, because you don't know.

Too many STD's have no symptoms and are not readily tested for.
Nov 2 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An HPV Diagnosis—To Disclose Or Not To Disclose?.
@27: Because your body isn't special. If you've been sexually active, you've almost certainly had HPV, and you have no basis for claiming otherwise.
Nov 2 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An HPV Diagnosis—To Disclose Or Not To Disclose?.
@21: I wasn't asking about your STI status. I was telling you that if you have been sexually active, you have ALMOST CERTAINLY had an STI at some point, and claiming otherwise is simply ignorant. If you want to say, "I've never had symptoms of an STI, so it's possible but still unlikely I've never had one", that would be accurate.

Were this casual conversation, I'd have just let it go, but you're posting on a public forum where there are other people who read this and they deserve accurate information.
Nov 1 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An HPV Diagnosis—To Disclose Or Not To Disclose?.
@3: How do you know?

If you have had sex with other people, you have no idea if you've ever had an STD or not. Most people with herpes don't know, most people with HPV don't know, hell, the body can even clear chlamydia and gonorrhea on its own.

Point is, if you have had sex, and you claim, "I know have never had an STD", you're lying.
Oct 25 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Mom's Boundless Boundary Issues.
Or, short version:

LW's mother is annoying, but LW should give her mother the same level of consideration she has received, which, given her paid-for education and recent living arrangements, is not insignificant.

It is not unreasonable for LW to put forth some effort to work with her mother's annoying personal traits.
Oct 25 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Mom's Boundless Boundary Issues.
Man a lot of you guys are quite callous.

Look, at the end of the day, your mother cares about you. Now, clearly, like my mother, LW's mother does not know how to positively express those feelings, but that doesn't change the fact that LW's mother is simply worried about the welfare of her daughter.

When someone really cares about you, and that someone is, due to biological relation, not someone you can simply replace, you learn to work with the way they are programmed to care. And I say this as a son of a mother who is TEN times more overbearing than LW's.

So, first thing: Lock your private shit down. Fix your phone so texts from people aren't legible to anyone who happens to be in possession of your phone.

Accept that your mother is going to worry when it is 3 AM and you are not home. It does not matter that you are 26, mothers worry, it's their job, and that worry doesn't just turn off when you turn 18, or no longer qualify to be on their health insurance. And that's fine - no matter how old you are, the people who care about you are going to worry if you're not there when they think you should be. So get used to it - part of being a responsible adult is not making people worry about you unnecessarily. So if you're going to be out late, tell mom you're going to be out late. Or tell mom you're staying over at a friend's house, or going out of town, or whatever, and worst case come home early.

And, for fucks sake, if you live at your parent's home, DON'T LET THEM FIND OUT YOU SMOKE WEED! Millions of high school kids, for decades, have managed to smoke weed without their parents knowing about it. Surely at 26 LW can figure out how to do the same. Do your mother a favor and make the minimal effort to make her think you quit smoking so she'll stop asking you about it.

These are life skills. Whether it's living with her mother or her BFF roommate or her future husband, at some point LW is going to have to figure out that living with other people involves compromise and no cohabitation arrangement exists where everyone just does whatever the fuck they want without pissing off someone else.

When you live by yourself, do whatever you want... but when you get a roommate, you gotta stop ashing in the sink.
More...
Oct 20 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Post-Marital Counseling.
There are a couple things that might work:

You might say, I never agreed to an endlessly monogamous marriage, and if the opportunity arises, I may seize it. If you have any questions about this, I'm happy to talk about it. Then conduct your non-monogamous marriage in the most benevolent way possible: I.e., in a manner that doesn't affect him at all. If he finds that it doesn't affect him, he may be end up fine with it.

Or, you might find him a woman. The quickest way to get a monogamous partner into non-monogamy is options. "Finding him a woman" most likely just means making sure you, as a couple, are hanging around other women who are themselves on the non-monogamy page.
Oct 11 biggie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Stop Humping The Bed.
@3: Yes, would someone please explain what French Passive is? I honestly didn't think there were any new terms left out there I hadn't heard of...

@4: The same way you're commenting on this article, the internet. (refrain)The internet is for porn, the internet is for porn...(/refrain)