8:48 PM yesterday
commented on Savage Love
If "Hey, I have this friend I'd also like to explore a relationship with" isn't the standard impetus for exploring polyamory, what is? "Hey, I'm really bored in this relationship, can we see other people?"
It is a pretty common refrain here that if you find yourself wanting sex outside your marriage, instead of being a CPOS, or not being satisfied with the sex in your marriage, you should ask your partner about opening up the marriage. Yet here we are vilifying Mrs. HUSBAND for doing exactly that.
It is, however, fair for HUSBAND to say, "I'm not opposed to opening the marriage, but let's meet some other poly people as a couple first." Their foray into polyamory is unlikely to go well if it consists of wife having a boyfriend and the husband staying at home. (That's cuckoldry, of which HUSBAND does not seem to be interested in.)
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: How to Satisfy a Troglodyte
LW *IS* entitled to a satisfying sex life, and he is entitled to have one by deciding to end relationships with women who do not want the same sex life that he does.
Saying someone with a high sex drive should compromise down to the partner with the lower sex drive is no less entitled than the other way around. Maybe if the guy has a higher sex drive and a whole lot of other great qualities, the partner with the lower sex drive should compromise up to sucking some more dick instead of feeling entitled to a relationship that doesn't work for the other partner.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: This Land Was Made for You & Me (to Have Sex in Public)
In my younger nears, I once had sex under a tree in the Conagra headquarters complex in Omaha, Nebraska. Although it was the weekend and things were fairly deserted, we were within line of sight of perhaps a hundred different office windows. And there was a lake, and this lake had a boat with some sort of party on it going around the lake...
...but we were far enough away from anyone that whether we were having sex or just making out wouldn't be obvious.
For the straight folks, she wears an a-line skirt, he has a seat, and she sits in your lap. Can do it in full view of whoever, as long as they can't get to you before you can zip your pants back up. The more less discretion you require, the shorter the skirt.
I've also had sex in the glass stairwell going up to Adobe Gilas in full view of whoever happened to look up at the MB Financial park in Rosemont IL, but in retrospect I don't recommend that.... the margaritas there are not very good.
No matter your location, 1) Don't expose yourself (skirts for girls!) 2) make sure you can see any interlopers approaching before they get too close.
commented on Trump Administration Attacks LGBT Community On Three Fronts Over Last 24 Hours
You're grasping Dan. You listed one (the first) the other two have virtually nothing to do with LGBT people. The 2nd the LGBT exec order is just a casualty of Trump not wanting to enforce ANYTHING on contractors, so LGBT folks are just getting fucked along with all other Americans, and HIV funding for Africa isn't an LGBT issue either.