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commented on This Weekend in Great Reads Behind Paywalls: The New Yorker on Domestic Violence Homicides
Holy victim blaming.
I would venture to say that women staying with their abusers has a lot less to do with delusions of their own power to change someone and a lot more to do with believing they'll never find anyone else that will love them and be with them.
They don't believe they deserve better. The bit about many of the victims coming from abusive background is not a throwaway tidbit, it's identifying a huge risk factor.
As for why women love their abusers, the human brain's capacity to fall (protectively) in worshipful love with someone who holds the power of life and death over you is pretty fucking well documented.
As is the mammalian brain's immense sense of reward when pleasure and affection are dispersed only intermittently and unpredictably.
As is the human tendency to place a higher value on that which comes to us at great cost (band camp, the Marines, children, relationships that are horrible for us).
None of that is news.
commented on The Spazz Age
my favorite jab that none of the college kids sitting around me seemed to get was when Daisy slipped a pen into Buchannan's pocket in the party scene "in case you need to write down any phone numbers." aka, "whatever, I know you fuck other people. why don't you go chase that for a bit and leave me to my flirtation." I laughed.
commented on What Do You Think of the Gravity Trailer?
This trailer played last night in front of Gatsby, and I lost my faith in humanity (again) after just about the entire theatre burst into laughter when the astronaut spins away unthethered to her presumable death. I was sitting in the front, and looked behind me incredulously to see dozens of people making the spinning motion with their hands, throwing their heads back laughing.
commented on Watch SPD Liberally Apply Pepper Spray to Protester Faces
The 'correct' protester response would be to lie down in the road. The 'correct' police response to that is to drag you into a paddy wagon and arrest your protestin' self.
Unfortunately... I think protesters in this country no longer believe that the police will act in good faith and not kick/abuse/pepperspray the shit out of anyone sitting in. see also, Occupy Berkley.
commented on The Slog Netflix Streaming Club: Freaks & Geeks, "Kim Kelly Is My Friend"
@14, me too. When I watched it again many years later.
I saw some of it on the original run, but I was a freshman in high school. And a lot of it was too painful to watch, then. And I hated Kim and wanted Daniel. Watching it again as and adult... I want to give Kim and Daniel both a safe place to sleep.
F&G is goddamn ART in the way that few things are.