Nov 17
MT3 commented on Slog Somehow Overlooked....
MT3 commented on Slog Somehow Overlooked....
I think that Loveschild thinks like I used to think - that "gay" can be taught and rubbed off on people if they're weak-minded - and who could be more weak-minded and easily influenced than young children?
While that idea has a kernel of merit, the truth of it is, even if kids do experiment, they will eventually come to a realization of what their sexuality really is - and if they're educated on all aspects of what all sex really is, there's less chance that they'll make stupid mistakes trying something because they weren't told or taught.
At 16, the idea of anal sex grossed me the fuck out, but at 34, I find myself open to the idea of trying it with someone who is as honest and tender-hearted as me. That's what growing up does for you.
While that idea has a kernel of merit, the truth of it is, even if kids do experiment, they will eventually come to a realization of what their sexuality really is - and if they're educated on all aspects of what all sex really is, there's less chance that they'll make stupid mistakes trying something because they weren't told or taught.
At 16, the idea of anal sex grossed me the fuck out, but at 34, I find myself open to the idea of trying it with someone who is as honest and tender-hearted as me. That's what growing up does for you.
Nov 13
MT3 commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Son Likes Stickpussy.
MT3 commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Son Likes Stickpussy.
@43: Great approach...
"All dad has to do is look his kid in the eye and say, "Everything is cool. Everything. I'm here if you want to talk. If not, I'll mind my own business. But everything is cool.""
"All dad has to do is look his kid in the eye and say, "Everything is cool. Everything. I'm here if you want to talk. If not, I'll mind my own business. But everything is cool.""
Nov 13
MT3 commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Son Likes Stickpussy.
MT3 commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Son Likes Stickpussy.
@20: Yeah, the concept of the "chicks with dicks" or "stickpussy" level of sexuality seems weird and unreal, but there's tons of other levels of sexuality that people are into that many of us may not understand. It doesn't give us a right to disrespect it, and if isn't infringing on your right to have the sex you want, why give a fuck? I can't understand how people find scat sexually attractive, but they do.
"He who is without dogshit on his sneaker, take the first step on the white rug." - Fontaine (Whoopi Goldberg)
"He who is without dogshit on his sneaker, take the first step on the white rug." - Fontaine (Whoopi Goldberg)
Nov 11
MT3 commented on Savage Love.
MT3 commented on Savage Love.
@23 - not that I've dealt with this type of thing personally, but it seems to me like bisexual and "straight" men who find a good woman are usually encouraged to suppress the need/desire for dick. He doesn't know if she'd be cool with it, so he hid it. I think it's foul, but I understand it.
Now, if he comes clean and admits it when she asks, if she lets him know that she's down for all of that, and it turns her on, then it could all work out.
Now, if he comes clean and admits it when she asks, if she lets him know that she's down for all of that, and it turns her on, then it could all work out.
Nov 11
MT3 commented on Savage Love.
MT3 commented on Savage Love.
Great advice to SAD! I have some additional thoughts though:
It's almost obvious that your boyfriend is bi/gay - since you said that you could live with having a bi boyfriend, if he comes out to you when you ask him, you hold all the cards to make this work. Relationships like this seem like they could go bad if there's no ground rules established, like, who's the main partner, who's the side partner, or, if you want a permanent poly hookup with your man and his BFF.
It seems to me like this could work out very well for you if the idea of your guy being with another guy turns you on, but if it doesn't, and he's bi, you might need to end it.
It's almost obvious that your boyfriend is bi/gay - since you said that you could live with having a bi boyfriend, if he comes out to you when you ask him, you hold all the cards to make this work. Relationships like this seem like they could go bad if there's no ground rules established, like, who's the main partner, who's the side partner, or, if you want a permanent poly hookup with your man and his BFF.
It seems to me like this could work out very well for you if the idea of your guy being with another guy turns you on, but if it doesn't, and he's bi, you might need to end it.
Nov 9
MT3 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Should He Finally Meet His "Ex" In Person?.
MT3 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Should He Finally Meet His "Ex" In Person?.
WTDAME - Aside from Dan's advice, I'd like to add this:
If the relationship you're in now is "great, emotionally, intellectually, and sexually" and you "could not be happier", then why in the fuck do you feel the need to fuck up this great relationship for a woman you never even met?
Yes, you had great conversations with her, but I'm willing to bet that you're either a selfish asshole who just wants to fulfill the primal urge to fuck this woman, or you're lying about how "great" your current relationship is. If your current relationship is so "great", then where's the urge to fuck around coming from? If you want to blame it on the fact that you're 20 and want to fuck around a bit, then why get in a relationship?
Man up, keep what you have, go meet this woman and keep it platonic for NOW. If shit doesn't work out with your your current "great" relationship, THEN you can try this other woman out - if she's not with anyone else at that time.
If you hurt this "great" woman you're with now, just for some pussy, karma will come back on your ass like the worst boomerang ever.
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If the relationship you're in now is "great, emotionally, intellectually, and sexually" and you "could not be happier", then why in the fuck do you feel the need to fuck up this great relationship for a woman you never even met?
Yes, you had great conversations with her, but I'm willing to bet that you're either a selfish asshole who just wants to fulfill the primal urge to fuck this woman, or you're lying about how "great" your current relationship is. If your current relationship is so "great", then where's the urge to fuck around coming from? If you want to blame it on the fact that you're 20 and want to fuck around a bit, then why get in a relationship?
Man up, keep what you have, go meet this woman and keep it platonic for NOW. If shit doesn't work out with your your current "great" relationship, THEN you can try this other woman out - if she's not with anyone else at that time.
If you hurt this "great" woman you're with now, just for some pussy, karma will come back on your ass like the worst boomerang ever.
Nov 4
MT3 commented on Savage Love.
MT3 commented on Savage Love.
@8 brings up an interesting point.
I'd slightly amend Dan's advice to NOT alienate the 14 year old kid. It's totally possible for ACLU to show the 14 year old boy that he cares about his niece and doesn't want her to end up pregnant, but also wants to let the boy know that he's willing to provide assistance without judgment.
It would probably also help if ACLU didn't let on to the kid that he's gay, unless his mannerisms are so fierce that he can't camouflage his gayness at all. If his mannerisms are that fierce, trust, if ACLU is nice and helpful to this kid without being threatening, this kid might come out to ACLU or come to ACLU for advice on coming out. Now, at that point, ACLU would be well within his rights to assert to the kid to come clean about his gayness to the niece, so that she's aware, but then I'd also be talking to the niece and offering her "if you need somebody to talk to about this, tell your mom - if you feel you can't tell her or a counselor, come to me and I'll talk to your mom for you".
I'd slightly amend Dan's advice to NOT alienate the 14 year old kid. It's totally possible for ACLU to show the 14 year old boy that he cares about his niece and doesn't want her to end up pregnant, but also wants to let the boy know that he's willing to provide assistance without judgment.
It would probably also help if ACLU didn't let on to the kid that he's gay, unless his mannerisms are so fierce that he can't camouflage his gayness at all. If his mannerisms are that fierce, trust, if ACLU is nice and helpful to this kid without being threatening, this kid might come out to ACLU or come to ACLU for advice on coming out. Now, at that point, ACLU would be well within his rights to assert to the kid to come clean about his gayness to the niece, so that she's aware, but then I'd also be talking to the niece and offering her "if you need somebody to talk to about this, tell your mom - if you feel you can't tell her or a counselor, come to me and I'll talk to your mom for you".
Oct 30
MT3 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day.
MT3 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day.
"If your boyfriend-related fantasies revolve around the social perks alone—the companionship, the affirmation, the status—you might be a dyke. But if your fantasies about a boyfriend include sucking face (and other things) in addition to the social perks, well, you might be straight or bi."
With the genders switched, this helped me answer questions about myself. Great advice Dan.
With the genders switched, this helped me answer questions about myself. Great advice Dan.
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Yes, I believe that we all should be free to be who we really are, regardless of what that is, but this is about the WORKPLACE.
Most people in the workplace have enough sense to either not display their whole lifestyle, or tone down who they are in the workplace. It's a professional environment, so why does this guy feel the need to put his personal business on display? That should be reserved for when he goes out AFTER work to the tranny bars, or places where others like him congregate.
This whole situation brings the recent controversy at Morehouse to mind.