Tom Winter
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Sep 22, 2016 Tom Winter commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Another Jealous Boyfriend.
@3 - I've jacked off to craigslist ads. I think the appeal is similar to that of amateur porn, there are real people behind those ads expressing their very real and immediate desires. There is also the potential to follow through. It's extremely unlikely that I could ever wind up having sex with someone in professional porn, but the folks on craigslist are right here in my city and could turn into something real if I pursued it.
Aug 16, 2016 Tom Winter commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
@5 Back surgery or something involving the abdomen would probably make thrusting motions extremely difficult.
Aug 9, 2016 Tom Winter commented on Imagine It: The Seattle Symphony Performing the "Sanford & Son" Theme Song.
@ansible - Yes, Tracy was trying to get back at Jack for something and donated a ton of money to the orchestra if they would agree to devote an entire performance to the Sanford and Son theme song.
May 7, 2016 Tom Winter commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Bonus Advice for WWWM & VIRGN.
Amen! Finding someone worth rounding up is totally a numbers game, you've got to get out there and meet a bunch of people.
Apr 6, 2016 Tom Winter commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy Downtime.
I've never been a parent, but stress and overwork totally zap my libido and that can drag on for a while if I don't get a chance for a real break. Fortunately, it comes roaring back with a vengeance when I do get a couple of days off.

If there are any grandparents handy, you might see if they can take the baby for a weekend so that LW and hubby can go away for a few days. Two days in a hotel no crying baby and a hot tub might be all he needs.
Jan 22, 2015 Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: Cheater and Cheated.
@2 Amen!!!! I'm a very happy only child and married to another very happy only child.

I can imagine a few benefits to having siblings, but honestly, whenever I encounter adults interacting with their siblings I tend to be a little repulsed by it. Really sane, intelligent people revert to being adolescent idiots when their siblings are around. It's really disturbing and the non-only children just don't seem to see it.
Sep 5, 2014 Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Son-In-Law.
Someone who came out of the closet at 27 getting married at 28 is definitely a bad idea.
Jul 23, 2014 Tom Winter commented on Savage Love.
I'm a 42 year-old chubby gay guy living in a small city. It's really not that hard to find men of all ages interested in casual sex, even 20-somethings. You just have to have a reasonably open attitude and go looking for things in the places you're going to find them. The 20-somethings pay me absolutely no attention in bars, but I get plenty of attention from them on dating apps. As Dan has pointed out many times and in many contexts, there's often a disconnect between what people are really into and what they are willing to acknowledge they are into in front of their friends.
Apr 9, 2014 Tom Winter commented on Maternal Leave and the US.
This oversimplifies in some ways. Germany has 14 weeks at full pay, but you can tack a full year onto that at a reduced rate of pay.
Jan 27, 2014 Tom Winter commented on We Can Do This.
@5 - Iowa City is home to the Iowa Writers Workshop, the oldest creative writing MFA in the Unites States. The Iowa workshop consistently ranks #1 for creative writing MFA programs and there's a long and impressive list of writers who've done a stint in the cornfields. It's not a crazy choice for this program.