Apr 17
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
Does anyone else think BONG just wanted to share and plug cannabis, and threw in some questions so the letter could get printed? "ZOMG, it's freaking amazing!" followed by "Is this a problem?" seems a wee bit pretextual.
Apr 13
XiaoGui17 commented on Another Teenage Girl Takes Her Own Life After Photos of Her Rape Are Distributed Online.
Preemptive bans become a game of whack-a-mole. "Oh, the people doing [insert horrible thing] are using X now? Ban X! Now they're using Y? Ban Y!" In the meanwhile, those who are capable of using X, Y, or Z responsibly end up getting punished because of those who use it for bad reasons.
Couldn't a teenage girl who was sexually assaulted use a picture phone to get a picture of her attacker? Many who have been groped or flashed in public areas have used camera phones to catch a picture of the perpetrator. I speak from personal experience when I say that whipping out your phone is the fastest and easiest way to get such a person to stop.
Couldn't a teenage girl who was sexually assaulted use a picture phone to get a picture of her attacker? Many who have been groped or flashed in public areas have used camera phones to catch a picture of the perpetrator. I speak from personal experience when I say that whipping out your phone is the fastest and easiest way to get such a person to stop.
Apr 13
XiaoGui17 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Sisters & Slaves.
@13 "...but what's not clear from the letter is if she is thrusting their BSDM on them..."
My thoughts exactly. It really seems to depend, in my mind, on the pushy-vs-busybody dynamic. People will often accuse gays of "forcing their lifestyle down other peoples' throats" when all they're doing is minding their own damn business. For some busybodies, the sheer fact that a certain sexual identity or lifestyle EXISTS is akin to forcing it down another person's throat.
If the Mistress Sis is flagrantly flaunting her D/s dynamic in front of the relatives, yeah, she totally needs to knock it off. But if the other sister is just wringing her hands at the very fact that this relationship exists, she needs to take a chill pill. It's hard to tell, from the letter, which is the case. The letter-writer seems to be speculating about the outrageously public things Mistress Sis might do instead of reporting the outrageously public things Mistress Sis has done.
As for the invitation to the collaring, that's a sticky subject. On the one hand, it does seem to be involving the relatives in the lifestyle. On the other hand, people will often feel slighted if they are not invited to the weddings of relatives or friends. Mistress Sis may feel obligated to extend an invitation due to this common expectation.
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My thoughts exactly. It really seems to depend, in my mind, on the pushy-vs-busybody dynamic. People will often accuse gays of "forcing their lifestyle down other peoples' throats" when all they're doing is minding their own damn business. For some busybodies, the sheer fact that a certain sexual identity or lifestyle EXISTS is akin to forcing it down another person's throat.
If the Mistress Sis is flagrantly flaunting her D/s dynamic in front of the relatives, yeah, she totally needs to knock it off. But if the other sister is just wringing her hands at the very fact that this relationship exists, she needs to take a chill pill. It's hard to tell, from the letter, which is the case. The letter-writer seems to be speculating about the outrageously public things Mistress Sis might do instead of reporting the outrageously public things Mistress Sis has done.
As for the invitation to the collaring, that's a sticky subject. On the one hand, it does seem to be involving the relatives in the lifestyle. On the other hand, people will often feel slighted if they are not invited to the weddings of relatives or friends. Mistress Sis may feel obligated to extend an invitation due to this common expectation.
Aug 8, 2012
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
@5 Your response comes across as painfully naive. Loves her "as a mother"--are you kidding?
1) Yes, letter writers make up their own signatures. HORNY tagged himself as horny.
2) Why would the fact that the friend's mom is married be an issue ("But") if he just liked her as a mother figure?
3) Why would someone write to a sex advice columnist about wanting another maternal figure in one's life?
Seriously, I don't see how anyone could interpret that letter in that way.
1) Yes, letter writers make up their own signatures. HORNY tagged himself as horny.
2) Why would the fact that the friend's mom is married be an issue ("But") if he just liked her as a mother figure?
3) Why would someone write to a sex advice columnist about wanting another maternal figure in one's life?
Seriously, I don't see how anyone could interpret that letter in that way.
Jul 2, 2012
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
"She didn't even reject it pre-emptively. She heard it was supposed to work, she tried, it did nothing for her."
The vital part of that post was she tried it *once* and it didn't work. ONCE? As a woman, I masturbated several times a week for several years before I brought myself to orgasm for the first time. Anyone who gives up that easily most definitely has hung ups. It's certainly not just a "I'm not into masturbation" thing.
The vital part of that post was she tried it *once* and it didn't work. ONCE? As a woman, I masturbated several times a week for several years before I brought myself to orgasm for the first time. Anyone who gives up that easily most definitely has hung ups. It's certainly not just a "I'm not into masturbation" thing.
Jun 13, 2012
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
To all you people complaining "WAAAAH acknowledge their feelings!"
...why? Dumping the person basically means that you are no longer responsible for their feelings. You don't want to be responsible for their feelings. That's why you're dumping them in the first place!
For crying out loud, has no one seen that Seinfeild episode where George keeps trying to dump these two women and they just won't let it go? They say they have to "agree" in order for the breakup to be valid, so they just cling to him even though he's telling them it's over? Gee, it makes me glad I live in the age of texts.
...why? Dumping the person basically means that you are no longer responsible for their feelings. You don't want to be responsible for their feelings. That's why you're dumping them in the first place!
For crying out loud, has no one seen that Seinfeild episode where George keeps trying to dump these two women and they just won't let it go? They say they have to "agree" in order for the breakup to be valid, so they just cling to him even though he's telling them it's over? Gee, it makes me glad I live in the age of texts.
Jun 13, 2012
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
"...there's no excuse not to man or woman up and give them a call."
Maybe you've never had one of those clinging types that simply refuses to believe you, and will practically BEG you to take them back and threaten suicide if you refuse. Texting is a great way to make a unilateral statement to someone who is absolutely batshit and who won't take no for an answer in the two-way conversation a call permits.
Maybe you've never had one of those clinging types that simply refuses to believe you, and will practically BEG you to take them back and threaten suicide if you refuse. Texting is a great way to make a unilateral statement to someone who is absolutely batshit and who won't take no for an answer in the two-way conversation a call permits.
Mar 24, 2012
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
For me, personally, the softcup did not work at all and was a terrible option. It leaked, popped out constantly, was extremely uncomfortable. Yes, I tucked it behind my pubic bone like the instructions say. I just have a terribly tiny vagina that squeezes things out--I get the same problem (to a lesser degree) with tampons.
Feb 21, 2012
XiaoGui17 commented on Savage Love.
All dead Mormons are now gay. Awesome.
Mormons are also known for performing posthumous marriages--marrying popes to nuns, and stuff like that, because in order to get into the Celestial Kingdom, you have to be MARRIED: part of the Mormon conspiracy to make as many Mormon babies as possible.
Perhaps we should gay-marry some dead Mormons? Let's come up with a flamboyant husband for Brigham Young! How about a cute little boy toy for Joseph Smith?
Mormons are also known for performing posthumous marriages--marrying popes to nuns, and stuff like that, because in order to get into the Celestial Kingdom, you have to be MARRIED: part of the Mormon conspiracy to make as many Mormon babies as possible.
Perhaps we should gay-marry some dead Mormons? Let's come up with a flamboyant husband for Brigham Young! How about a cute little boy toy for Joseph Smith?
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You're reading into Dan's response something that simply is not there.
EFFED is the acronym of the sign-off that the letter-writer HERSELF chose. Dan was not choosing to subtly imply that the letter writer was "EFFED" or "fuct" by calling her that. He refers to every single letter writer by the abbreviated form of how they sign off.
There is nothing in Dan's letter that subtly suggests the letter writer needs to rethink whether she really, truly, in her heart-of-hearts, wants to give cuckolding a try. Dan told her plainly and absolutely: "Tell your husband in no uncertain terms that you don't want to hear about cuckolding anymore. Period." It's hard to misinterpret that or leave it open for other possibilities.
Your writing is still confused and incoherent, which prompted many to question whether you're all there. Either English is not your first language or you have hebephrenia. Whatever the issue is, I suspect your own communication issues are what are causing your gross misunderstanding of what Dan was saying.