commented on Two Reader Responses to My Trigger Warning Post and One Sensible Defense of Trigger Warnings
I was abused as a kid. Sexual, mental, physical, if there was an abuse possible, it was happening. And then I grew up and moved away and sought help. Counseling, therapy, support groups and I got better. The first time I read The Lovely Bones, I curled up in a ball and cried and moaned and thrashed about and this was years after the abuse AND therapy. I read that book to the very end and then I read it again while crying in despair and after I finished it the second time, I picked it up again and read it. That's one good thing about going to someone and talking about your own triggers, you know who the monster is and you get to look that monster in the face and say, "fuck you!"
So, trigger warnings...let's get real. It is unreasonable to expect everyone in the world that creates something, be it a book or movie or music and known how it is going to personally affect you. Ultimately, we are all responsible for our own well-being. If something triggers you, sets off a panic attack, a flashback, then put something in place to deal with it. Plan out your attack. Be proactive and make yourself the victor in your fight. And get some fucking therapy.
If I've learned anything from having a crappy life, the world and everyone in it is dealing with grief and pain and sorrow in their own way and they don't have the energy for your suffering. People have to be the protagonist of their own story. You are the lead in your movie. Turn around and face your ghosts and kick their asses.
Sep 9, 2013
commented on I Can't Stop Thinking About Martians
250 years ago, a family would get on a boat to go to a new country and start a new life. 250,000 years, people wandered across entire land masses to start a new life.
The only thing that is different is how we view it all. These people, some incredibly idealistic, some just freakin' crazy, want to do the same thing that people have been doing since there have been people.
Let them go, let them make mistakes, let them discover new things. Sure, we've got reality TV, but these adventurers and pioneers will still want to do this. We may have a moral responsibility to send mentally sound people to Mars, but progress and change doesn't happen unless someone takes that first brave step.
I am 100% sure that horrific things will happen when Mars is colonized. I think it is unavoidable. Pregnancies that don't go to term, murder, mayhem, destruction. But I am also 100% positive that amazing things will happen too. But they won't ever happen unless someone goes to Mars first.
Aug 1, 2013
commented on Gold Star Comment of the Day
I worked a temp job when I was a teenager one summer for one of these businesses. Silkwood showers don't get the ick off.
Jun 21, 2013
commented on Being Human Beings
I just about choked on my soda when I read, "I don't think there's a more stupid animal than a human child." It's so true. But then as The Simpsons say, "Stupid babies need the most attention".
Jun 18, 2013
commented on The Song I Listened to Over and Over Again After I Had My Heart Broken for the First Time
"This Woman's Work" by Kate Bush. I too had suffered a broken heart, but I was a little older, 19, I believe. I would just listen to it over and over and over and just sob. It feels insignificant to me now also, but time has a way of making the important things feel bigger and the silly things just fade.
I still get choked up though when I hear the song, but I think it's only because I have children now and the song has a far different meaning for me now.
Jun 11, 2013
commented on Another Way of Thinking About Genius
Why would anyone, ANYONE, listen to the woman who put forth the most narcissistic, self-involved book written in the last 25 years? I wanted to fucking punch her in the ovary 40 pages in.
"Blah, blah, blah, my life is fucking tragic, I'm well off and blonde and thin and I have friends that love me and lovers and have all the advantages offered to me but I'm so empty."
Anything this woman has to offer the world is clouded by her WHINE.
May 28, 2013
commented on Slog Poll: Arrested Development, Season 4
You are right about this show being about family. After watching the new season, I was telling my husband that I missed the family being together and interacting because that's when they are at their most interesting. That being said, the individual focus on each character was actually very revealing, because it showed how every single one of these characters (with the exception of Oscar), is absolutely my favorite.
The conversation after each episode was, "I like JOB best." and then Lindsay's episode, "I like Lindsay best." and so on. It really highlighted what is so absolutely twisted and depraved and sweet and lovable about these people.
And most of all, I came away with a greater appreciation for this show, because these are talented, funny actors who gave it their best and the show still got cancelled. I am happy to see these people back, even if it's not wholly in the way that I would have wanted.
May 7, 2013
commented on Modern Times Dilemma: The Hobbit Is Stuck in My DVD Player
This is not a problem. Pay Redbox what you owe them for the DVD. Unplug the DVD player, put it into an old microwave oven (proven EMP proof storage), put that into another box and bury in your yard. Make sure you have a generator and gasoline to run the generator. When the Electro-Magnetic Pulse wipes all electronics out, dig up DVD player with The Hobbit, set up generator and invite all your friends over for entertainment. Sucky CGI is now a thing of the past, because this is all the electronic entertainment you now have.