The guy who rides five hundred miles a month illustrates the problem. If that's how cycling is going to be, riding in the "danger zone", constantly vigilant, stress hormones pumping, you're never going to get more than 1% of people cycling.
If you want cycling for everyone, look at places where absolutely everyone cycles (including seven-year-old kids, grandmothers, even disabled folks): Holland and Copenhagen. What do they have? Lots of segregated cycling. You've got to think about of the cyclists of the future and not the daredevils of today.
BTW, here's an example of a Dutch cycle path/local access road. Cars are allowed, but bikes take priority: