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in the past few hours BiDanFan commented on Savage Love.
Venn @34: I agree with Hunter @42. Dan has advocated that kinks be rolled out early in a relationship, not because they are a "present" to the less kinky, but because they form a part of the full disclosure necessary for the less kinky partner to decide whether or not they'll pay that price of admission. Without early disclosure, a couple can get too vested in each other before the kinky person fesses up to what they've been missing and realise they can't, or don't want to, go without any longer. And then there are problems.
in the past few hours BiDanFan commented on SL Letter of the Day: Unicorn Hunters.
Nartweag @5: And if they say yes, run.
in the past few hours BiDanFan commented on SL Letter of the Day: Unicorn Hunters.
Sublime @6: "numerous possible thirds" Bwahahahahaha. The term "unicorn" being applied to women who are willing to have sex with couples derives from the fact that these women are so rare. It's a seller's market. Couples who turn down willing female thirds never get threesomes.
in the past few hours BiDanFan commented on SL Letter of the Day: Unicorn Hunters.
Kind of offended that anyone would describe receiving oral/other attention from a fellow female as "crazy."
11:53 AM yesterday BiDanFan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Loving Wife, The Dicktease.
Suggestion: If the wife is feeling sexy but not up for PIV or oral on her, maybe she could be persuaded to give more blowjobs. If she enjoys that, it might also have the effect of getting her horny for her own pleasure more often.
11:41 AM yesterday BiDanFan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Loving Wife, The Dicktease.
Kate @22: I think Dan was making a pun.
9:12 AM yesterday BiDanFan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Non-Disclosure Agreement.
There's no need to disclose, but there's also no need to keep this a secret. I would say to disclose that you cheated when cheating comes up as a topic of conversation with said future partner. When you're close to someone, you should be able to talk about past mistakes and what you learned from them -- and it sounds like NCA did learn from it. I'd have a lot more trust in someone who was mature enough to admit to screwing up and learning than someone who sat there and listened while I talked about my prior screw-ups, but didn't own up to their own.
Jul 27 BiDanFan commented on Savage Love.
Hunter @18: I read "Femme Dom" as a female dominant. I would interpret it as a particularly feminine female dominant, but perhaps that's confusing BDSM terminology with lesbian terminology. Femdom is the act of a woman dominating a man. So Femme Dom is a person, femdom is an act.

Though, thinking further, a cross-dresser or non-op trans woman might describe them/herself as a "Femme Dom." I think that's a far less likely interpretation based on the tone of the rest of the letter, though. A guy described as vanilla is far more likely to be marrying a cis woman.
Jul 27 BiDanFan commented on Savage Love.
Venn @62 (Apologies for my absence, I am on holiday -- it is currently raining, so here I am!): You're correct, I have been fucked by a woman with a strap-on and by a man with a penis and it's not exactly the same. But it's more similar than oral sex between the genders, and therefore more easily substituted.
Jul 22 BiDanFan commented on Savage Love.
Chase @52: I'm sorry, but if you've ever sucked cock and eaten pussy (not necessarily simultaneously) you will know there is far more difference there than there is between blond pussy and redhead pussy.

Yes, I know I'm scoring an own goal with the "yes, bisexuals can be monogamous" crowd; many bisexuals can, but Peter2 doesn't seem like one of them.

Regardless, if Peter2 did in fact commit to monogamy (and remains so), he owes it to Sis and BIL and everyone else to sleep happily in the bed he made and not constantly moan about the dick he's missing. I agree, going on about it is pretty rude.