Jun 13, 2012
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Dear NEWB ... Maybe you've got it all worked out by now, but you might consider telling your girl that you're a virgin and asking her to guide you through the act with you. Make the first time not about the act, but about learning about each other, and you won't regret it.
Mar 21, 2012
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Dear HSL: He's lying to you about being soul mates because the sex is great, he already has companionship, and you're young and naive enough to believe his BS.
Jan 13, 2012
robt vesco, jr. commented on Today in the Proven Connection Between Gay Marriage and Child Porn.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Today in the Proven Connection Between Gay Marriage and Child Porn.
@5 Sorry, Sara, but I heartily disagree. The issue is precisely gay marriage and changing the language won't accomplish the goal, in my opinion. I'm gay; I'm married, I use the term, and I'm not an idiot. Controlling the language is not the solution; the solution is to get people to not jump out of their socks when they hear the term, which we are rapidly accomplishing. Eventually, when everyone can get married, the term "gay marriage" will fade away naturally, organically.
(This is wholly different, in my view, from getting people to stop using offensive terms like the N-word, F-g, R-tard, etc. These are negative terms, and the fewer kids hear them, the fewer adults in the future will use them and think it's okay.There's nothing negative about gay marriage.)
(This is wholly different, in my view, from getting people to stop using offensive terms like the N-word, F-g, R-tard, etc. These are negative terms, and the fewer kids hear them, the fewer adults in the future will use them and think it's okay.There's nothing negative about gay marriage.)
Nov 4, 2011
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
"Your mission is to find a dominant, manly, bossy man with whom you're sexually compatible, i.e., a bossy top who wants to fuck your throat, your fist, your clenched thighs, your Christmas ham—whatever—but not your ass."
I am allergic to pineapple rings, cloves, and maraschino cherries. Way to go, Dan. Make me feel more marginalized than I already do. Just in time for the holidays.
I am allergic to pineapple rings, cloves, and maraschino cherries. Way to go, Dan. Make me feel more marginalized than I already do. Just in time for the holidays.
Sep 15, 2011
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Has anyone asked if No Clue had an orgasm from her BF going down on her? Seems like important ground to cover. So, No Clue: You get to direct his licking the same way he gets to direct your sucking. Take your time, help each other out in this, and you'll never regret it.
Dan: You sound like an old man about the earlobes. "And those tattos and baggy pants! Why in my day, we ... and get off my lawn!"
Dan: You sound like an old man about the earlobes. "And those tattos and baggy pants! Why in my day, we ... and get off my lawn!"
Sep 13, 2011
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Dear DARE,
Since you enjoy thought experiments, try this:
For one week, pretend that what everyone here has written negatively about you is true. For that one week, don't tease or flirt. Don't analize or philosophize. Don't write about yourself online or in a journal.
It's just a week. Can you do it? I bet you can, and I bet you'll learn one or two things about yourself.
Since you enjoy thought experiments, try this:
For one week, pretend that what everyone here has written negatively about you is true. For that one week, don't tease or flirt. Don't analize or philosophize. Don't write about yourself online or in a journal.
It's just a week. Can you do it? I bet you can, and I bet you'll learn one or two things about yourself.
Dec 1, 2010
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Dear Blowjob: The first thing you should make sure of is that your boyfriend doesn't masturbate for a few days before you try next time.
Dear Confluence: We're talking about a woman who is unhappy in a relationship but isn't telling her partner that important truth because she -- supposedly -- values his friendship so much.
Dear Confluence: We're talking about a woman who is unhappy in a relationship but isn't telling her partner that important truth because she -- supposedly -- values his friendship so much.
Nov 28, 2010
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
@46: See that little button, right next to the volume? No, that's AFC and it doesn't work anymore. It's that other one. It turns it on and off. Use that one when Dan's saying something you aren't interested. Then come back later to
see if he's done talking about drugs or poo-eaters. Sheesh. It's like getting mad at Ask Amy for giving bad advice. Or Family Circus for being inane.
see if he's done talking about drugs or poo-eaters. Sheesh. It's like getting mad at Ask Amy for giving bad advice. Or Family Circus for being inane.
Nov 19, 2010
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Dear WWDO:
The real point here, WWDO, is why don't you tell this dude to stop disrepecting women in your presence? Tell him in no uncertain terms that it's not cool to call his exes "fucking bitches."
The real point here, WWDO, is why don't you tell this dude to stop disrepecting women in your presence? Tell him in no uncertain terms that it's not cool to call his exes "fucking bitches."
Oct 27, 2010
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
robt vesco, jr. commented on Savage Love.
Dear Slidebone 11:
Re: "Blood relationships outweigh all others. Out of loyalty to the daughter, the Dad should end the friendship with the son-in-law."
"Family first" is the kind of nonsense that perpetuates all kinds of problems in our society. God knows how many child molesters, spouse abusers, ne'er do wells, and general layabouts are given a free ride because they're family members.
Dear ALD: You say your father is "incapable of understanding your feelings." What you mean to say is that your father doesn't agree with you. Having strong feelings about something doesn't give you a free pass to claim he's an idiot if he won't go along with those feelings.
And anyway, as you hint at, you need to deal with the underlying reason your ex's presence in your dad's life makes you feel crappy.
You also need to realize that you made a smart and courageous decision when you broke up your marriage. Now you both have a chance at happiness; before, neither of you did.
Re: "Blood relationships outweigh all others. Out of loyalty to the daughter, the Dad should end the friendship with the son-in-law."
"Family first" is the kind of nonsense that perpetuates all kinds of problems in our society. God knows how many child molesters, spouse abusers, ne'er do wells, and general layabouts are given a free ride because they're family members.
Dear ALD: You say your father is "incapable of understanding your feelings." What you mean to say is that your father doesn't agree with you. Having strong feelings about something doesn't give you a free pass to claim he's an idiot if he won't go along with those feelings.
And anyway, as you hint at, you need to deal with the underlying reason your ex's presence in your dad's life makes you feel crappy.
You also need to realize that you made a smart and courageous decision when you broke up your marriage. Now you both have a chance at happiness; before, neither of you did.
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