Jul 14
Gayle commented on The Babysitter.
And I don't think the double standard here (older woman and young boy vs older man and young girl) has anything to do with breastfeeding. It seems pretty straight forward to me: we assume that teenage boys always want sex and don't have a sacredness about their body / virginity that women are presumed to.
On average, they're right. Girls are taught to prize their virginity. So when an older man is able to convince them to do sexual things, the girls often wind up being traumatized. Boys, on the other hand, are taught to basically taught to have as much sex as possible. (This is, of course, just a generalization - many girls don't care about their virginity and many boys do.)
That being said - sexual assault of this nature can have a very negative impact on a boy, even a seemingly eager boy. It warps their perception of relationships by getting into such an unequal relationship so early.
On average, they're right. Girls are taught to prize their virginity. So when an older man is able to convince them to do sexual things, the girls often wind up being traumatized. Boys, on the other hand, are taught to basically taught to have as much sex as possible. (This is, of course, just a generalization - many girls don't care about their virginity and many boys do.)
That being said - sexual assault of this nature can have a very negative impact on a boy, even a seemingly eager boy. It warps their perception of relationships by getting into such an unequal relationship so early.
Jul 14
Gayle commented on The Babysitter.
The 14 year old was the oldest child. She was probably hired to watch his younger siblings. Sure, the parents could've had the boy babysit his siblings - but not all 14 year olds are responsible enough to do that (and younger siblings often won't listen to their older siblings. I sure wouldn't have!).
Jun 22
Gayle commented on Welfare Queen City.
@13 Kerri - those dates actually demonstrate the historical liberalness of the club. 1978 is shockingly early for a private club to be admitting black people. Go spend some time in New England - many private clubs STILL don't allow black or jewish members.
@5 The Rainier Club is a gym, event venue, restaurant, etc. It hosts world renowned poets, author, artists, etc. Members join for all sorts of reasons, including just wanting a place to socialize with people they know and people they don't.
While private clubs have the reputation of being old snobby rich white republicans, the Rainier Club is anything but. From my and other members' estimates, about 80% of the club voted for Obama. There are a lot of black members (despite being located in an extremely white city). And, furthermore, the people aren't snobby. At all.
I'm a member, and when I first read this article I was sort of appalled at this request. But then I saw that there were more than *100* local projects. Could preserving one of the oldest buildings in Seattle make it into a top 100 list of local projects? I don't know - I'll need to see the rest of the list - but I think it's certainly possible.
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@5 The Rainier Club is a gym, event venue, restaurant, etc. It hosts world renowned poets, author, artists, etc. Members join for all sorts of reasons, including just wanting a place to socialize with people they know and people they don't.
While private clubs have the reputation of being old snobby rich white republicans, the Rainier Club is anything but. From my and other members' estimates, about 80% of the club voted for Obama. There are a lot of black members (despite being located in an extremely white city). And, furthermore, the people aren't snobby. At all.
I'm a member, and when I first read this article I was sort of appalled at this request. But then I saw that there were more than *100* local projects. Could preserving one of the oldest buildings in Seattle make it into a top 100 list of local projects? I don't know - I'll need to see the rest of the list - but I think it's certainly possible.
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Secondly, you can't say that this isn't as bad as rape. That's purely subjective (even if *most* people would find rape more traumatizing than molestation). Some people would actually have an easier time with rape, as it's easier for them to bucketize / explain. If it's forceful, their mind might be able to more easily come to the conclusion that it's not their fault. Everyone reacts differently.
Thirdly, are you really criticizing teenage girls for overreacting to being molested by a person they trusted and respected? I mean, they were put through a traumatic experience. And they're teenage girls. And they were probably blamed / judged for this by some people. And now, they have to explain a deeply painful event in public.