Azul
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Jan 25 Azul commented on Savage Love.
So excited to see the ITMFA stuff again — I still have my button from the Bush years! Now that I have a child, I will tell her and any of her friends that ask that it stands for Impeach the Mega Fascist Already
Dec 16, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Mistakes Were Made (Math Remains Hard).
dcp123, although I respect your opinion, I actually like the word concerning as an adjective -- I think it's useful and I can't think of any other word that has the same connotations. Just as troubled and worried are stronger and more emotional words than concerned, troubling and worrisome connote stronger emotion than does concerning.

I have definitely heard people say utilize when they look mean use, however, and that drives me crazy! "Conversate" just makes me laugh...
Dec 15, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Mistakes Were Made (Math Remains Hard).
Kind of along the lines of what cowboyinbria is saying, I actually don't think "gift" (as a verb) and "give" mean exactly the same thing. "Give" is a more general, all-purpose word; "gift" has more nuance and conveys more information than the word "give" does. In some contexts you could substitute "give" for "gift" without losing any meaning, but in other contexts "gift" explains more definitively than "give" the nature of the giving.

"He gave me his coat" could mean "he handed me his coat;" but "he gifted me his coat" is less ambiguous.
Nov 1, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An HPV Diagnosis—To Disclose Or Not To Disclose?.
@4, that doesn't mean you've never had HPV. If you were infected in the past and your body cleared the infection, you would test negative.

@3, if you've had multiple sex partners, chances are you've been exposed to HPV already. There is no way to know unless thr virus is still in your body and "flaring up"
Jun 20, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: New Father Wants a Threesome Right Now.
As a mother to a young child, you nailed this one, Dan. Spot on.
May 2, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Soft Serve.
I do *not* agree with Dan's approach at all! Lately it seems like he just doesn't get women...

Don't mention the masturbation. Show her you're into her by following up, and like nocute says, don't wait too long. I also agree with Seandr... Next time, say something casual in the moment. NBD.
Apr 15, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Strap-On Tools.
Agree with @1. As a woman, if I received a message like that from someone I was planning to get together with (and considering sleeping with), it would be a big turn off. Unless we had already explicitly agreed we would sleep together.

The strap on in and of itself would not be a problem for me. Just the presumptions of the email (there will be sexual activity) and no regard for the game... Which is so much of the fun!
Feb 17, 2016 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Ex Files.
@ 80, thank you, ofcookiesandrhetoric, for your post. Well said.

LavaGirl, I am totally with you in all that you've said. I am saddened by the lack of sensitivity that seems to make up the default position of so many posters here. And Dan too... Just no concept of what it means to carry life inside you, wanted or not.
Oct 19, 2015 Azul commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Problem With My Gay Brother Isn't That He's Gay.
@9, I thought the same thing...
Apr 28, 2015 Azul commented on Savage Love.
Agree with crone... there are some pretty attractive 62-year-olds (my mother-in-law is 62, gorgeous, and could pass for 50 up close, 40 from a distance.) 62 does not equal 85!