generous heart, big mouth.

Jun 3, 2013 Candida commented on The Fall of Will Smith.
I remember him saying some time ago (10 years at least?) that he could see himself becoming president someday. Could he ever be a candidate, with the Scientology and rumors?

I disagree that he's always the same, he was nominated for an Oscar for Ali. But his projects have for a while been more about his 'star power' than actually good writing, and they've been disappointing for some time. Hancock was originally supposed to be a new franchise, remember?
Aug 5, 2011 Candida commented on Rise of the Planet of the Apes: You Will Not Die of Boredom.
Oh, Charles. Do you like anything?
Jun 7, 2011 Candida commented on SL Letter of the Day: Cock Blocked by a Baseketfoothockeyball Star.
Let's not be silly here. Black men don't play hockey!
May 31, 2011 Candida commented on Political Penis Tweets.
Louis CK DOES have a routine, it's about the guy who told him to suck a whole bag of dicks.…

Obviously, NSFW.
Jan 3, 2011 Candida commented on Color of the Year.
Would Steel Magnolias consider that color "Blush" or "Bashful" ?
Sep 5, 2010 Candida commented on This Woman Is Ridiculous.
I agree that SQ is well-intentioned, but so was the woman who wrote The Secret, which is just as insulting, if not more. I got into a conversation recently with someone about that book who was like "Everything happens for a reason! If you just ask the Universe for your path and success, it will come to you!" Yes, that's exactly why children die of leukemia, because their parents weren't asking the Universe for a successful recovery.

A positive attitude is often a great starting point for tackling any problem, but it's still irresponsible to treat something like depression as though it's easily dismissed. "Hey fat people, here's my theory -just eat less and you'll be fine!"
Aug 30, 2010 Candida commented on "Much Props to Sylvia Plath".
I'm saying MEN should cook for their LADIES as a means of seduction!! Instead of the women doing the cooking AND putting out for their men! GET IT?! HAHA! I'm a revolutionary! Feminist chicks dig me and leave their panties on my floor all the time! I'm so post-modern!
Aug 16, 2010 Candida answered a bunch of weird questions about himself or herself.
Aug 16, 2010 Candida updated his or her bio.
Aug 13, 2010 Candida commented on Control Tower.
@ anguisette~

I am sympathetic to your desire to not have an illness that was forced upon you translate into an identity as damaged goods, or less than full personhood. I've survived rape and emotional abuse myself.

However, as someone who has been in (and recovered from) major relationships with 1. a diagnosed manic-depressive who introduced me to kink in the first place and then betrayed my trust, refused medication (because "love is supposed to be unconditional and this is who I am"), stalked me post-relationship and attempted suicide -


2. an ex-Navy SEAL alcoholic w/PTSD who verbally and physically threatened me, stole money and prescription meds from me, cheated, and lied about me to an entire circle of friends -

To me "crazy" means someone who is *incapable of behaving rationally, because of their chemical imbalances, issues, or a combination of both.* And while people like this deserve compassion and support when they engage in recovery efforts, I am not responsible for their well-being. We are all only responsible for our own happiness, and ultimately have to protect ourselves from harmful relationships.
Twice I was pulled in by charisma and a desire to be there for someone when no one else had, and twice I was burned very badly.
And while my current partner (and top) of 5 years may not inspire the same kind of exhilarating passion as either of those other relationships, he's also not crazy. And I don't see protecting myself or recommending that friends protect themselves from relationships with crazy people as "oppression."