Mar 18, 2015 AJD commented on After New Gay Bashing, Mayor Says He'll Create a Hate Crimes Task Force.
I don't want to come off like I'm blaming the victim, but as a general rule of thumb, if someone says something like "he looks like a faggot," responding to them - let alone saying "thank you" - isn't the smartest thing to do. Just keep walking, surreptitiously looking behind you to make sure they're not following you. Anyone who just accosts you out of the blue like that is LOOKING for a reason to beat you up.
Nov 7, 2012 AJD commented on Savage Love.
I'm gay and a Buddhist (I follow the Pure Land school, to be specific), and I think BAAA's comments require a slight correction.

Buddhism does NOT require belief in the Judeo-Christian God. While Buddhism does include a number of supernatural elements, including reincarnation and beings like bodhisattvas, one can choose to believe or not believe in gods, whether pagan deities or the God of Abraham.

Also, Buddhism isn't about being right or wrong, and while it may have a lot of disagreements between sects and with other religions, it doesn't say that if you're not Buddhist, you'll come back as a garden slug. It's actually incorporated ideas and beliefs from other religions. For example, Chinese temples often portray Guanyin, a.k.a. the bodhisattva Avalokiteshvara, in a form similar to the Virgin Mary, complete with a child - that's because Buddhists in China saw the Virgin Mary as a manifestation of Avalokiteshvara when they first saw Catholics carrying statues of her.
Apr 25, 2012 AJD commented on Bodega Bonanza.
Speaking as a Seattle native who now lives in New York and has also lived in the Chicago area, I can say that bodegas and neighborhood cafes are a godsend.

But despite there being a number of bodegas and cafes within a block of my apartment in Brooklyn, not to mention an open-cut subway station, my neighborhood remains remarkably quiet and tranquil, and I mean that in absolute terms, not by New York standards.

So I think the author was absolutely correct to refer to "NIMBY carping."
Jun 22, 2011 AJD commented on Savage Love.
Regarding WTFLOL, I concur that it'd be best not to appear in porn or in videos on Xtube in which he's identifiable.

A Google search is a standard part of any employer's background check these days, and at some point, a video that shows WTFLOL ramming another guy will probably come back to haunt him.

And I would say that it theoretically could ruin a career in medicine, especially if he's planning on any area of medicine that involves dealing with children or examining people's nether regions.
Apr 6, 2011 AJD commented on What He Said.
I live in New York, and I love love love the fact that I don't need a car to get around. The subway is a million times more convenient than driving, and a lot healthier too because it still requires one to walk a few blocks (in aggregate, I walk at least 2 miles a day just to get to work, and I have the svelte wasteline to prove it).
Oct 20, 2010 AJD commented on Lost in New York, Day 5: Hollister.
You forgot "Bedbug Express"
Sep 22, 2010 AJD commented on Savage Love.
This was a great post, but my only beef is that it hasn't been established that Billy Lucas was gay. He may very well have been, but he also might not have been. The horrible treatment that the poor kid experienced qualifies as anti-gay bullying, but that doesn't mean he actually was gay.
Mar 31, 2010 AJD commented on Savage Love.
And another thing: My experience confirms what Dan said that a lot of gay guys consider uncut dicks to be a huge turn-on. In fact, when I was in the Midwest, my being uncut alone got me laid...
Mar 31, 2010 AJD commented on Savage Love.
Good advice for the uncut guy. As an uncut guy with a preference for other uncut guys, I would strongly recommend that UNCUT remember to pull his foreskin back and keep it clean underneath.

And avoid taking uncut-related advice from most straight women. Most American guys are cut today because of the mistaken belief -- promoted in the late 1800s and up until the 1970s -- that cut dicks are inherently cleaner and less prone to disease. Also, because many American guys who are uncut have dads who are cut, they were never taught how to clean properly, unlike in countries where most guys are uncut. These two factors have resulted in a widespread aversion to uncut dicks among straight women.

But having lived for an extended period of time in a predominantly uncut country (i.e. China) and also here in the States, I can say that I've actually found most uncut guys to be a lot cleaner in that area than cut guys, having encountered a lot of funny smells down there from guys who are cut. I think it's because they assume that being cut makes them clean, so they don't have to be meticulous about scrubbing and using soap.
Mar 4, 2010 AJD commented on Only Privileged White Gay Men Care About Marriage Equality.
Of course issues like employment and discrimination are important, but I, too, am sick of these GLBTs who think that gay marriage somehow has nothing to do with them and that we should drop it to address issues of concern to them. Add to my shit list Jasmyne Cannick and Yasmin Nair, an idiot blogger and self-proclaimed "queer lesbian who loves cock" at The Bilerico Project.