Nov 14, 2012
DF commented on Savage Love.
Another tip from a sex-positive female who is cunnilingus-indifferent: make sure it's warm in the room, and even more so in the area you'll be working in. One of the things I really don't enjoy about the experience is that, between the saliva and my own moisture, it all gets pretty wet. Cold air hits it and - *shudder* - now everything has gone cold and wet.
Clammy.
Nope. Don't think I'll ever be a fan.
Clammy.
Nope. Don't think I'll ever be a fan.
Nov 7, 2012
DF commented on We Couldn't Have Done It Without Them.
If they can deny your rights, they can deny mine. If they can can use your sexuality to deny your fundamental humanity, then someone can judge mine, and do the same to me; no one is truly safe.
Fighting for equality and basic rights is ALWAYS enlightened self-interest for any human being.
(A good example is your own vocally pro-woman, pro-choice campaigning, Dan. It's not like you were ever gong to need birth control, or have to decide what to do about an unplanned pregnancy. But you were in there pushing and shoving with us, just the same. )
So yeah, thank YOU.
Fighting for equality and basic rights is ALWAYS enlightened self-interest for any human being.
(A good example is your own vocally pro-woman, pro-choice campaigning, Dan. It's not like you were ever gong to need birth control, or have to decide what to do about an unplanned pregnancy. But you were in there pushing and shoving with us, just the same. )
So yeah, thank YOU.
Oct 10, 2012
DF commented on Savage Love.
Unusually bad advice from Dan. There are sooo many examples of men who will relentlessly try to prevent their gf/wife/ex from obtaining an abortion, regardless of their own willingness or suitability or ability to be a father.
I find it just that he might try to tell her to carry the baby to term as he would be to drive her to an abortion clinic. Which wouldn't actually prove a damn thing about him, except that he opposes abortion, which he already said.
His willingness or unwillingness to "step up" isn't what's being debated. And it doesn't mean he gets to make that call for her, which is the true crux of the matter.
I find it just that he might try to tell her to carry the baby to term as he would be to drive her to an abortion clinic. Which wouldn't actually prove a damn thing about him, except that he opposes abortion, which he already said.
His willingness or unwillingness to "step up" isn't what's being debated. And it doesn't mean he gets to make that call for her, which is the true crux of the matter.
Jul 4, 2012
DF commented on I, Anonymous.
It's easy to be sanctimoniously assholic about healthy choices when your own are not on display every time you step out the front door. Hypocrisy is thick as shit all over this list.
Eat a lot of fried food, red meat? Smoke tobacco? Do drugs? Do you have frequent unprotected sex? How nice that you can totally disown that dangerously unhealthy behavior at any given moment, keep it all to yourself and judge the visibly fat slob who can't.
Eat a lot of fried food, red meat? Smoke tobacco? Do drugs? Do you have frequent unprotected sex? How nice that you can totally disown that dangerously unhealthy behavior at any given moment, keep it all to yourself and judge the visibly fat slob who can't.
Jun 15, 2012
DF commented on Michigan State Reps Lisa Brown & Barb Byrum.
I just posted a message to Jim Stamas' FB page, regarding my VAGINA. I think my vagina wants to send him an email too...
Apr 28, 2012
DF commented on What Is the Worst Word in the English Language?.
Ugh.
"Magical".
Please, give me back awesome, excellent, terrific, I can take them, they are generic enough to simply glide by without much of a bump. But lately, people I know, particularly people of the vaginal persuasion, are having magical parties, a magical time, spending magical weekends out of town, and I want to slap them back into this non-magical dimension every fucking time I hear it.
Hold the glitter, girls.
"Magical".
Please, give me back awesome, excellent, terrific, I can take them, they are generic enough to simply glide by without much of a bump. But lately, people I know, particularly people of the vaginal persuasion, are having magical parties, a magical time, spending magical weekends out of town, and I want to slap them back into this non-magical dimension every fucking time I hear it.
Hold the glitter, girls.
Apr 9, 2012
DF commented on SL Letter of the Day: Holy Day of Romantic Obligation.
Pathetic manipulation - I agree, LW invented a little "jump through my hoop if you love me" test for her boyfriend, then claims to be the injured party when he fails to perform. And yes, it's really glaringly obvious you consider that she does nothing at all on the date, other than sit there quietly waiting for him to make some dramatic gesture that she apparently is not required to make.
Apr 2, 2012
DF commented on SL Letter of the Day: Getting Your Girlfriend To Let You Go Down On Her—A Holistic Approach.
"People would tell me I must have some sort of psychological hangup about my pussy or that I'm afraid to let someone pleasure me, but that couldn't be further from the truth. I will happily lay back and let my partner give me an orgasm with his hands or a toy or whatever else. And I masturbate just about everyday so I'm not averse to pleasure. The fact is I just hate tongues. They're slimy and squishy and ugly and having one all over me just turns me off. Plus I prefer the feeling of my own vaginal juices without a bunch of saliva mixed in. I'm usually not a squeamish person, but being licked is just not a pleasurable feeling for me."
Yep. Basically.
Except that hating tongues part. I don't hate tongues. I just don't think they are the Be-All, end-all answer to what all pussies need. And unfortunately cunnilingus has gotten so crazy-hyped that now there *is* this unstated expectation that I Will and Must love it, therefore he Will and Must stay the fuck down there until I orgasm.
(No performance pressure there, nooo Sir.)
And if I wanted to lay back and close my eyes, fantasize about what I can't see while playing with my own nipples (Really? Pawing the sheets as a sex act?) then once again, not sure where this is any better or worse than masturbating. And I do love myself to death regularly, look forward to it with a greedy smile, but that's *not* what I'd want to be doing with my sex partner - a partner that I came to the bed with so that I can see him and touch him, taste him. ALL of him, not just the top of his dee-diddly-damn head. No, wait ,actually, I'd enthusiastically take mutual masturbation *over* him going down on me. Big time. Show me, Boy!
It's not a sign of diminished imagination, or sexual inhibition, or internalized misogyny for a woman to dislike getting her pussy licked. It's just different people liking (and disliking) different things in bed.
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Yep. Basically.
Except that hating tongues part. I don't hate tongues. I just don't think they are the Be-All, end-all answer to what all pussies need. And unfortunately cunnilingus has gotten so crazy-hyped that now there *is* this unstated expectation that I Will and Must love it, therefore he Will and Must stay the fuck down there until I orgasm.
(No performance pressure there, nooo Sir.)
And if I wanted to lay back and close my eyes, fantasize about what I can't see while playing with my own nipples (Really? Pawing the sheets as a sex act?) then once again, not sure where this is any better or worse than masturbating. And I do love myself to death regularly, look forward to it with a greedy smile, but that's *not* what I'd want to be doing with my sex partner - a partner that I came to the bed with so that I can see him and touch him, taste him. ALL of him, not just the top of his dee-diddly-damn head. No, wait ,actually, I'd enthusiastically take mutual masturbation *over* him going down on me. Big time. Show me, Boy!
It's not a sign of diminished imagination, or sexual inhibition, or internalized misogyny for a woman to dislike getting her pussy licked. It's just different people liking (and disliking) different things in bed.
Mar 31, 2012
DF commented on SL Letter of the Day: Getting Your Girlfriend To Let You Go Down On Her—A Holistic Approach.
The more I read, the more I think there are a lot more oral-indifferent women out there than we might realize.
I love sex - in a variety of interesting, challenging, amusing, sometimes scary ways - and I love the way my body feels and responds, but I never have enjoyed having a guy go down on me. I suppose it's a combination of factors; the passive, "dead bug" position (what do I do with my hands? Crochet? How long can I play with somebody's hair?), the lack of visuals...
And frankly, I also just find it more often than not a bit, erm, sloppy, you know? Then the air hits the process and you have cold and slimy to work with. Put that all together with the fact that I'm basically missing the person I went to bed with. I mean I know he's there, but functionally it's like I'm having sex with a tribble...
Meh.
I love sex - in a variety of interesting, challenging, amusing, sometimes scary ways - and I love the way my body feels and responds, but I never have enjoyed having a guy go down on me. I suppose it's a combination of factors; the passive, "dead bug" position (what do I do with my hands? Crochet? How long can I play with somebody's hair?), the lack of visuals...
And frankly, I also just find it more often than not a bit, erm, sloppy, you know? Then the air hits the process and you have cold and slimy to work with. Put that all together with the fact that I'm basically missing the person I went to bed with. I mean I know he's there, but functionally it's like I'm having sex with a tribble...
Meh.
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