May 28, 2016 sweet g commented on How Do You Solve the Problem of Gendered Bathrooms? This Capitol Hill Brewery May Have an Answer..
As a transgender person, I think that this might be an idea that's nice on paper but not so great in real life. I think that any bathroom design that does not give women the opportunity to get away from men is a flawed one. Bathrooms have long been the refuge of women escaping the bad behavior of men, and while I realize that there are individual stalls, it's a very different situation if that guy has the option of standing outside your tiny stall until you come out. And, just on a fairly insignificant but still relevant note, realistically, you know that this is just going to give guys the chance to totally hose down 100% of the toilets with pee rather than just 50%. :-p
Feb 25, 2016 sweet g commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Dog's Life.
Why are police the default setting for involving the authorities? Adult Protective Services would go in, talk to the dog outside of the house and away from the master, and determine if this is a truly consensual situation and if the dog has the mental capacity to give consent. People actually do involve them in situations loosely like this (not necessarily BDSM, but where people are afraid that one person has been brainwashed and controlled by someone in an abusive relationship) and their tactics are to talk to the controlled person outside of the presences and environment of the potential abuser, but ultimately recognize the automity of a person to make their own choices. As long as they are convinced that the person is of sound mind and can leave whenever they want, they'll leave the situation alone.
Nov 11, 2015 sweet g commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Self-Fulfilling Assholery.
@22, I noticed the comment about her hostility towards white women, as well, and feel like there is more going on here than just standard jealousy / insecurity. I think as a white person Dan might be missing out on how racial dynamics may be affecting this situation, including well outside the dating situation. At a minimum, I definitely don't get that she wants him to break up with her. Odds are she is a traumatized person whose can't see past her hurt to realize that her behavior is going to get her the opposite of what she wants.

Additionally, anti-anxiety meds are almost always benzos, and (as someone who was unfortunately on them for years for a sleep disorder) not only do they make you kind of crazy while you're under their influence, they cause such a strong physical dependency that people start going into withdrawal (extreme and irrational anxiety and negative emotions being a chief sign of benzo withdrawal) in between their doses if the dose isn't regularly increased. Because the withdrawal symptoms resemble the original symptom set so much, though, they are rarely seen for what they are.
Oct 6, 2015 sweet g commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An Affair to Remember.
What is up with all of the people saying this is fake because it doesn't make sense? People who make stuff up general pay a lot of attention to detail to make it believeable whereas emotionally distraught people tend to ramble and forget to include details that other people won't automatically know.
Jul 22, 2015 sweet g commented on Glasgow's Alt Pride Celebration Bans Drag Acts.
As a trans drag performer, I really hope that the others who and successfully demanded their right to be on stage use it to grab the mic and go off in defense of our cis co-performers. I feel like surely this will happen and just hope someone posts the video.
Jun 10, 2015 sweet g commented on Savage Love.
SAD has another option- he can be the change he wants to see and start his own local kink group. Apart from that, seeing a professional dominatrix is a solid choice, too.
Jun 3, 2015 sweet g commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Question About Caitlyn Jenner.
Trans person, here. I think that the answer might be simplified a bit by explaining that trans people tend to have brains that more closely resemble the gender they identify than they do the brains of the gender they were assigned at birth. In that sense, I am very accurately described as "a guy brain in a girl body". I think that if it were explained a bit more widely in those terms, people would understand that it's a real physiological issue and not a psychological indulgence.

PS - As someone who is not transitioning, thanks for, as always, pointing out that many trans people choose not to transition and express their true gender in other ways. :-)
May 20, 2015 sweet g commented on Savage Love.
@101, "And what really would be the point of a man with two dicks? I only have one cunt." You also have an asshole. Also, some people like two dicks in their cunt, asshole, or mouth at the same time. I'd date someone with two dicks in a heartbeat, male or female. :-)
May 20, 2015 sweet g commented on Savage Love.
Trans person here, although this response is so obvious you don't have to be trans to have thought of it. Instead of saying what you aren't into (ie, "no trans people" or "no fats, no femmes"), or leaving the info out altogether and then having to reject someone in person, instead just state what you are into in your ad ("assigned female at birth A+" or "into trim butch guys") and call it a day.