4:47 PM yesterday
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@sportlanda. Sorry if you dated losers. You need to pick a better class of girl. Preferably ones out of high school.
that said, I don't care who is what sex, don't f@ck where you work, ever. An ex of mine (a dude) vindictively threatened to out me at work by sending a sex tape and I've seen women go trotting off to HR with complaints after they felt jilted. Do. Not. Shit where you live. No one is a perfect judge of character.
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@39 + 1 as well. More compassion than I was feeling.
My impression? Lw had her ex "pussy whipped" until the new gf came along. And then he tossed her aside. I went through some sick dynamics like that (for six months not seven years) with my own ex husband. After treating me badly as it sounds like lw's ex did to lw during marriage, I received a heady dose of ego affirming shadenfreud when my ex chased me hard after I walked out on the marriage. Similar to lw, I didn't have a good social network to help me. And I got a little nutty when his attentions were diverted to other women even though I was dating as well.... and then I got a handle on myself, reaffirmed that I didn't want to go there, and cut contact.
It sounds like lw never reached escape velocity on the emotional side. And lw that is what you need to do. All the snark, put aside. Dan called it cold in the end. Get your own ring of friends, own family, and own social network. It hurts to lose a friend. Sometimes the end of even bad relationships - be it a marriage or just a friendship - hurt like hell. Accept that. Accept you are powerless here, and move on.
Fwiw, I enjoyed the back and forth conversation. I really enjoy also when dan publishes those chain emails.
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@40. I want to plug the curious incident of the dog at nighttime as well. Amazingly good book. Written as I recall by a teacher with long experience with autism. Excellent.