Jul 21 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Different Day, Different Couple, Same Issues, Same Advice.
@ 19 - There's plenty of denial going on, yes, but... that's a defence mechanism. The cognitive dissonance is too great and can't be processed, so what else can one do to protect their ego? Deny, deny, deny.
Jul 21 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Different Day, Different Couple, Same Issues, Same Advice.
@ 21 - In the demographic I go for, the bi men are generally deeply closeted. They're highly unlikely to give their female partners any hint that they might like something up their butt; that would be a very dangerous reveal for them, since they want to remain in the closet. So they go with guys on the DL. And bonus, they get to suck a dick, too! (Though I've come across many who absolutely only wanted to get fucked. A couple of them even told me that they felt anything else would be cheating on their wife, since they were activities they could enjoy with her.)
Jul 21 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Different Day, Different Couple, Same Issues, Same Advice.
@ 15 - Yes, it may very well be some sort of defense mechanism: he has to be the "man" in the relationship to compensate for being the "woman" in bed. Any guy with that sort of outdated definition of gender roles (that goes against his conception of himself as a real macho) is bound to cause trouble in the relationship at one point.

That said, I've had sex with many bisexuals who only like to get fucked - coz that's what the women can't give to them, apparently - so who knows ?
Jul 20 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Different Day, Different Couple, Same Issues, Same Advice.
I'm used to living with "language barriers", and I just don't see what effect it might have here. "I'm possessive" = "soy posesivo" in Spanish. Not much chance of going wrong there. I think he expressed himself quite clearly. The LW needs to stop pretending he didn't hear what he did.
Jul 2 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Man 4 Woman Annoyed @ Men 4 Men.
@ 38 - "It must come from some more primal source"

It all comes from a very primal source: male stupidity.
Jul 1 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Man 4 Woman Annoyed @ Men 4 Men.
@ 16 - I think you're overestimating the intelligence of men who make catcalls. Their logic is: it worked for that guy in the Penthouse letters, why wouldn't if work for me?

As a gay man who used to be on various dating/hookups sites (that's before apps came along), I'd say about 1 in 50 guys who contacted me actually fit the description I gave of the kind of guy I was looking for. So it's not necessarily about power dynamics; they do the same thing whether they're straight or gay. It's more that they figure it's a numbers game, and if they try with everyone, they might get some action sometimes.

In other words: there's a lot of desperate people in this world.
Jun 30 Ricardo commented on An Actually Reasonable Email From an Actually Sane Sanders Supporter.
@ 37 - Many people thought that about W.
Jun 30 Ricardo commented on An Actually Reasonable Email From an Actually Sane Sanders Supporter.
@ 36 - Actually, the meaning of "least worst option" is crystal clear and by no means utterly nonsensical.

Best is the superlative of good, so by using "best option", you are stating that it's a good one. Which it isn't.

The "least worst" indicates that the option is not considered good at all, but is the one that will do less harm. Which it is.
Jun 30 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Two Dicks, One Girl (Who Happens To Be Engaged to Someone Else).
@ 17 - How you managed to make that up is a mistery. Reading comprehension fail.
Jun 30 Ricardo commented on Emails From Reasonable Bernie Supporters Pour Into My Inbox.
@ 72 - Considering the facts that the US as proclaimed itself the leader of the free world and that it bullies its "allies" into embarking on illegal and illegitimate wars, EVERYONE IN THE WORLD should be entitled to voice their opinion about who you choose for president.

And remember your very own first amendment before you try to shut people up again.